It is now over three years ago and we are getting married now, so I don't HAVE to tell him right?
2006-12-18 02:38:12 · 18 answers · asked by readinginpark 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't have to tell him anything, but that is your choice. I knew a lady in the same situation you are in. She was honest about it. Didn't bother me, I married her anyway. The past is in the past, if you don't want to bring it up, don't. If you do, and he has a problem with it, then he isn't understanding enough for you to waste your life on.
2006-12-18 02:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by been there 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your not marrying Jesus are you? Keep this to yourself because it won't help telling him.Confessions like this or being unfaithful, and the list goes on and on will only hurt you both and no good will come from it. You can't change it nor can you alter it to be something else. I'm not for or against abortion, I'm a man and never been pregnant so I have no opinion. If what you did at that time was right for you then it was the right thing to do and don't listen to other people's opinions on the matter or it will make you nuts
2006-12-18 10:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading your questions I would suggest you leave your whole sorted past in the past. Keep all your secrets and move on. Any medical problems you encounter (due to the abortion) will be kept confidential. Remember YOU got pregnant and YOU got the abortion, so YOU should deal with it alone. I sure hope your fiance knows what he is getting into, are you sure you are ready for marriage?
2006-12-18 12:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bring it up if I didn't have to. Some men believe you should tell them everything, and it may break his heart you waited so long to tell him. Since it's been over three years start thinking of the next baby your going to make not the one you aborted.
2006-12-18 10:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by jennidixon186 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to tell him now rather than later. Would you be able to hide that from him forever? It is better to begin a marriage on honesty. Would you want him to hide things from you? What if he found out , he would have a hard time trusting you. Just tell him what happened and how you feel. It may be hard now but over time you will be glad that you did.
2006-12-18 10:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by miss lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always tell the truth. In the case that someone knows about the situation before and may make a mistake and say something, you will already be protected bcs you told him the truth. It will come back to haunt you, it always does!
2006-12-18 11:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont drag your past to your present.U did a mistake .Now your starting a new life. Forget about your past and fill ur present and future with trust and love..
2006-12-18 10:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by Shaaz k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotten away with it this long so what are the chances he would find out any other way other than you telling him.
Nah girl...leave it be. You would be doing more harm than good.
2006-12-18 12:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by luv2btan1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to get married...no dont tell him that is the biggest hurt for a man because if wanted that child he never had a chance to say anything...i know my hubby would be devestated and probably would leave me!
2006-12-18 10:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by A Proud Marine's Daughter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask God for forgiveness and it will be done. No need to tell him unless you are unable to deal with keeping it in the past.
Wait, was it his child ?
Don't tell !!!!!
Why would you do that ?
2006-12-18 10:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋