I know its really hurting my relationship because any time my girl does something to bother me especially when I know she knows what she is doing I wont let it go. I will repeat my self in three different ways over and over again until I think she understands the degree at which Im feeling this anxiety and its not fair for me to do that to her. How do I stop feeling so anxious about the things she does and just accept them. I dont want to see a counseler and i cant afford one either, I need some techniques or breathing exersises that really work to build towards never feeling this way again. And seperating with her is out of the question for now, because she has put up with my bull this far so i know she loves me, she could have put up with someone elses easier bull if she didnt. Thanks
2006-12-18 02:32:06 · 6 answers · asked by 1authority 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Decide that you really want to stop, and work at it, if you don't really fell like you need to stop, it won't work! Resist the urge when it comes.
2006-12-18 02:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by §~You can't judge me!~§ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start by loving yourself first.
take the time to spoil yourself in some way such as a favorite hobby,shopping for things you like and have always wanted.
Or just take time for yourself with quite time and a movie you like, munching on popcorn, candy..whatever it is you like and learn to take time to enjoy the moment.
it sounds like you guys also need to set down and discuss some things that really bother both of you and work out how to fix them.communicate in away of bettering the relationship with out harming it.
You also need to learn to love her for her and she should you.
do something romantic every once in a while to make it a surprise and throw her off with that and build on what you have and enjoy eachother.Life it too short to dwell on little things, such a people's pet peeves.
2006-12-18 02:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by swtluvingcntrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its mental preparation you and only YOU can do it.
Control your emotions and and relax with your daily life route,enjoy everybits.You make mistakes don't get anxiety,only through mistakes you learn.But making mistakes and not rectifying is idiocy.
Just place your selve in her shoes if she was ur gf was as obseesesed as you how would you feel?
Its all in the mind,nothing is impossible Everything is possible.
Your mind makes you do things you got to train your mind to things for you,its just matter of practice and this practice can be done in the form of Yoga or meditation exercise.
So please don't get paranoid,just relax cool your mind and think what and how you want to do to gets rectified.
2006-12-18 02:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by Dipi s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make a conscience decision to not bring it up. If you think about it, force yourself to think of something else. I know that it is easier said than done. Just try it & see if it works. I hope it helps.
2006-12-18 02:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save your money on Psychiatrists,counselors.Try being compulsive. Huge difference.
2006-12-18 02:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by sandwreckoner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think if you really love your girl, you seems to have some insecurities. Let it go!
2006-12-18 02:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by pious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋