He yells at me, calls me names, occationally hits me! He said he does not know me. I am not supportive, not attentive, I am a whore, slut, bad parent! I am just sick of being treated this way. I am almost numb at this point! I want a divorce but how do i deal with the words in the mean time?????????????????
2006-12-18 02:28:12 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please leave this man--NOW. Find a battered women's shelter in your area. Please do not wind up a statistic!
2006-12-18 02:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by Steph. 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Im going to tell you this from the heart, You deserve better! Nobody deserves to be hit, I dont know if you are cheating or not, You are better then that, Do you want your kid/kids to grow up thinking that is the way to treat/be treated. I know its hard and you dont have to put up with the words, call the non emergancy police line and ask them where you can get local help. You will never be able to gather the emotional strength to move on if you are constently under fire or fear of it. If he thinks you are cheating he should leave not abuse, or have you leave. This is a control issue and its not going to get better. Ok maybe you hurt him emotionally, That does not give him the right to abuse you for even a second. No matter what you may think it is effecting the kids even when they dont see or hear it< or so you think my daughter used to put her ear to the wall > and after a while it dosnt matter where the kids are < my daughter got between us thank god she was seen she was 4 and punched daddy> shes 15 and afraid of men now just from what she saw.get help now you are not alone!!! read what t w gave you be honest with yourself
2006-12-18 11:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by loveamouse7767 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you'd cheated on him and even if his anger has a reason, his actions aren't justified. He cannot be abusive to you - both physically and verbally.
Over time, as you point out, you become de-sensitized or numb to the comments and abuses he makes. In a way, that probably helps you get through your day nowadays.
Keeping yourself as busy as you can, doing the things you like to do - listening to music or watching your favorite shows or anything - definitely helps a bit.
Hang in there. Just focus on the things you need to do - including getting that divorce and getting him out of your life. Meantime, remember that you can't afford to lose your temper and react to his tantrums - you'll playing directly into his plan to frustrate you.
Good luck darling :-)
2006-12-18 10:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being verbally abused by this man. He is probably cheating and this makes him feel better. Get a good attorney and divorce him before he does something worse that verbal abuse. Leave him ASAP. Do you have a supportive friend or relative you could stay with? Children don't need to hear this abuse either.
2006-12-18 10:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
An answer when mild turns away rage! Do your best not to aggrivate the situation and talk to a close friend or relative and see if the best option is to leave him or not. If things really are that bad then first to do is get an order of protection and proceed from there!
2006-12-18 11:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he needs to leave or you find another place to live. Either way you need to get rid of him and show him that you're not putting up with this. Seriously, if a man hit me he'd find his *** in jail and when he got out, all his things would be waiting for him at the curb.
2006-12-18 10:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him at the earliest and u need not to be upset if a sick guy calling u names.He need some treatment urgently. U chill and move ahead with life. Life is not this Bad.trust me!
2006-12-18 11:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Shaaz k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done all that , but not with my husband , with ex-boyfriend .. it sucks when a man calls you names , after awhile you start to believe what he is saying ,, But every time he says that to you , I want you to tell your self some thing good about your self . you are a woman so there are lots of good things about you . a woman is allot stronger mental than a man is .. so not let this man run you down . he has no other way of hurting you , but with his words .. that never goes away ! If you need help and strength please e-mail me I will help you threw this . blueflowerscs@yahoo.com
2006-12-18 10:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need out of that situation, take baby and got to mothers or someplace then maybe after a week or two you'll be able to talk things out. Good Luck
2006-12-18 10:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by nbr660 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
never mind if you`ve cheated or not, just get out of there, when fists start to fly it`s time to go, one of these days he`s going to go too far and it`ll be too late then.
Go stop with a friends or family, or go to a refuge but get out of there.
And that goes for anyone in an abusive relationship, of either sex.
2006-12-18 10:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by Tatty 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Go pick up your clothes and ask your parents if you could stay with them for a few days. Do not let your husband sense or know anything about it.
2006-12-18 10:32:12 · answer #11 · answered by cinabolic 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋