Financially ready or not, how long did you wait after marriage to have a baby??? Or did it just happen???
My family waited about 2 years but I want to hear other people wait time.
Thanks so much!!
2006-12-18 02:19:07 · 15 answers · asked by **What??** 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
we waited 3 years
2006-12-18 02:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by Conservative Texan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 6 + years and we have no children between us. My stepdaughter who is almost 9, just came to live with us this year. We do want kids together, and every year it seems we have moved closer to that. We decided we would like to be financially ready enough so that I could stay at home with our babies at first. Its very important to us to miss that important part in the their lives, and to be more involved in my step daughters school activities. etc. We know you can never be financially ready for kids,but i have seen my sister and brother in law that have 3 kids struggle, go thru bankruptcy etc, and i don't want that for mine. I feel more comfortable knowing we are paying off things now to be able to live without my income and i am trying to start my own business with Arbonne on the side so that i could still have some money coming in.
i am only 27 though so i don't feel time is running out yet, and i enjoy spending time with my husband - maybe because of my step daughter you realize how much time, attention and love they consume.
2006-12-18 02:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We didn't have our first child until we'd been married six years and we are very glad it took so long. We waited two years -after I finished my BA, then it took another three before we got pregnant. Despite the fact we wanted kids quickly, we found the delay was very good for us. Even if you know someone really well, marriage changes the dynamics of your relationship. We ran into differences and frustrations like we thought would never happen when we were dating.
2006-12-18 03:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has 2 daughters from a previous marriage and I have a daughter from a previous marriage. When we started dating and then eventually living together, he really didn't want anymore children ( as he is 21 years older than me). He thought he was too old to be having anymore kids. We were together for 7 months when I found out I was pregnant with our oldest son. It was hard to read his feelings about it on his face and he didn't talk about it much. When we went for the ultrasound and they told us it was going to be a boy, he just said "we'll see". He didn't believe them. When I was in the delivery room, and they laid that little butterball boy on my belly and he cut the cord, you could tell that this man was walking on a cloud!!! He finally had the son he'd been wanting for 20 something years!!!! And this baby was a "daddy's boy" from the word go!!! We still wasn't married at that time, but were planning on it. Then when our son was 10 months old, I found out I was pregnant again. He was quite a bit more interested in this one than the first. When he was born, again you could see the joy on his face at having another son!!! We married when I was only a few weeks along with the last child, but we were in a committed loving relationship. (and still are LOL) It has been the most amazing experience in my life and I couldn't imagine life without my 3 men in it!!!
2006-12-18 02:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When we got married we decided that we wanted to wait a couple of years before we had kids, just to have "us" time and make sure we had a good solid marriage before we threw kids on top of it. However, we both got kind of antsy and decided not to wait that long, and we actually got preggo on our first anniversary, baby 1 on 4/1/07!
2006-12-18 02:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by bigcitygrl2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We started trying about a month after our wedding, but we weren't successful until 6 months ago (a year and a half after our wedding.)
We didn't think anyone is ever "financially ready" so to speak. We both have decent jobs, little debt (just a small house payment) and insurance, so it happened at a good time. Also, we've managed to work it that I will switch to part time.
2006-12-18 02:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my first son, I ended up getting pregnant 2 months after I got married. After my son, we decided to wait until he was 4 to start trying. Mainly for financial reasons. We paid $400.00 per month for day care with him and wanted to wait until he was in school all day to have another baby. So we did. He will start full time kindergarten in August 07 and our new addition will be here in July 07. So it worked out great for us!! :)
2006-12-18 02:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy of 2 Boys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth my husband and I were engaged when I got pregnant. We had planned on getting married in July but then when I found out I was pregnant we got married in March. Our daughter is 15 months old now and we are trying for another baby. But we had planned on getting married and then waiting a couple years to have a baby, that way we could spend time just us for a little while, but I wouldnt trade the way things happened for nothing. Good Luck
2006-12-18 02:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
My husband and I had been married for 4 years before we had a baby. We had been together for 6 years. We planned it that way and I think it worked out for the best.
2006-12-18 02:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We were married in 1981.
I enlisted in the Army in 1982.
First child, a girl, in 1985.
Second child, a boy, in 1987.
We wanted a 'couple of years' where we could enjoy ourselves.
We honestly don't remember being without kids now, but it has been 21 years afterall.
2006-12-18 02:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by wolf560 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋