what do i do if i get kicked out?

Question

Right now, I'm at real odds with my parents, because they just can't seem to accept my new lifestyle habits. I've lost weight and been keeping it at that, but they keep on trying to sabotage me. The thing is, they think that the fatter a person, the healthier, so they're working against me. Help, they threatened to kick me out of the house in a month, and I don't want to sacrifice my health, so whatever shall i do? I'm just a freshman in college with little savings.

I am not anorexic/bullimic by the way, nor do I take drugs or smoke or anything. I got thin because of exercise, running everyday for about 4-6 miles per hour. I was 195 pounds for my height (5'10 1/2, asian) until I lost my weight for 140 pounds. I didn't lose weight in a fast way, been working out for almost 8 months now. I took a thyroid test since they were thinking that I had a thyroid problem but results showed I'm okay. I calculated my BMI and it was 20.1, my WHR is 0.83. I took a test for cholesterol and blood sugar and everything showed normal. Despite all of these, they still won't listen! They are overweight, by the way, so are my two siblings, sedentary too. I think me and my other sister's the only ones who are active in our family, with an exercise routine and good diet.

Answer 1

Ok, are you gonna tell give us the sequel or just let us guess from there?

Answer 2

It appears as if you have to now make a decision. Either gain weight or move. That is the weirdest thing I have heard of in a while! Are you sure you are telling the story completely and representing your parents right? Do they feel as though you are anorexic? Are your eating habits or choices appearing dangerous to them? Ask if they would allow a mediator to hear the situation and see what they think. It's just a bit far fetched to believe that parents who support you all your life and even now in college while you are a grown person would take offense to you eating healthier and kick you out of the home for that reason alone. To be honest they are not obligated by law to support you any longer and no one on this website can give you enough support to make them. So it seems as though you may be better off if what you say is true to start supporting yourself, especially if they are truly that way about a healthy lifestyle. I was put out of the house over two decades ago at 17 and I was thankful..still am. Just remember you can't have it both ways, either submit or move on.

Answer 3

Well, I really don't know what to say to this. But I will give it a shot. Maybe you need to change some of your lifestyle habits. I am not sure what your lifestyle habits are besides losing weight. I would say if you are losing weight like over 100 lbs in a few months maybe there is another problem there. I think you need to help yourself before your parents will help you. That is something that I have learned over years from my parents. I finally have a good life. But just remember not to get upset with your parents they are just looking out for your well being.

Answer 4

Are they trying to sabotage you? Or are you sickly thin thin because of bullimia/anorexia and they are trying to get you back to a healthy weight because they are scared you are gonna end up killing yourself? There has to be more on the story than that. And how old are you? As far as i am concerned when you are a youth living under their roof, you abide to their rules. They are the law in that house.

Search BMI calculator on the net and see what your ideal weight for your height and age are. If you are less than that, suck it up. You look gross and you need to gain weight.
If thats about where you are at explain to your parents that this is a heathy weight for you.

If it is substantially more, reason with them about how you think they are living an unhealthy lifestyle

Answer 5

So, let me see...you're a college freshman, an adult, I assume, and you live at home, with your parents, you have no money, I assume you have no job...is all this right?

Sounds like except for the goodness in your parent's hearts, you'd be living in the streets already.

I'd start by getting a job. If you're going to school part-time, get a full-time job. If you're going to school full-time, get a part time job. Learn how to manage your money instead of living off others.

Second, talk to your parents about the food situation. If they serve poor quality food, in terms of nutrition, try to suggest more nutritious foods. If they refuse, simply reduce your intake to consume only the number of calories you need.

If you had a job and your own money, you could supplement your parents food with your own, more nutritious food.

Take charge, take control of your life, stop living off of other's good nature. Then you'll be in a position to deal with people who don't "accept" you.

Answer 6

So they want you to stay overweight? Being overwieght is sooooo dangerous! Have you ever seen a 90 years old man that was 600 pounds??? I sure haven't! Are they overweight too? Ya know my whole family is 500 pounds and +, except for me and my mom, they treat us like dogs, and I hate to say, its cause of jealously. They know they are overweight, we aren't we took care of ourselves and in their eyes its like a slap in the face, knowing they are limited at things they can do cause of their weight, maybe print this page out to your family and see what they think then..here is the website with a lot of interesting things on obesity.
http://www.mamashealth.com/eat/oweightdam.asp

Answer 7

you come from a messed up family. Look in the classifieds for a room to rent and get out of that house but stay on good relations with the sickos you are realted to. They will not change, but you will need their financial help to get you to a point in life you will no longer need them and hopefully by doing that they will respect you in the long run.

Answer 8

Come on, dude. You're holding out some truth on us. How exactly did you lose weight? Drugs? Starving yourself? Bulimia? I'm sure they're not against health, no matter what you say. Work it out with them and tell them that if they kick you out you'll get REALLY skinny because you won't be able to afford any food.

Answer 9

well they prolly think your on drugs, and thats the reason your skinny now..I dont know. I was always griped at when i went from 220 to 170, i fattened up so i wouldn't have to listen to it, but as of 3 days ago i'm back on my lowcarb diet. 6 lbs in 3 days. mostly water wieght.

Answer 10

Yeah, that happened to me. It wasn't over weight, though. I went and got a haircut and joined the Marines. Problem was solved, absolutely no bills, and I got paid.

Answer 11

Come on your parents are going to kick you out because your skinny or because your not eating?? Well maybe your too thin like anorexic thin then i might understand why they want you to eat...