I am contimplating leaving my childrens father............?

Question

One of my biggest problems is that he is HORRIBLE in bed. It makes me want to choke him. he is a minute man and most of the time he doesnt even try to please me and even when he does try it usually fails. i dont even want to waste my time doing it with him. What do i do?

Answer 1

Have you spoken to him about your sex life? Have you told him that he is not making you orgasm? Have you suggested some techniques that make you feel good?

Try talking to him and also think about the rest of you marriage. Is it as bad as the sex? It sounds like it must be, because a bad sex life alone does not sound like a marriage breaker.

If the marriage is bad all the way around, then you either need to see if it can be corrected or end the marriage for reasons beyond the bad sex.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 2

I agree I think that leaving your man because he's crap in bed is a bit harsh!! Is that the "Biggest Problem"??

Take the lead, both of you strip and show him what you want, go for role play games where you can both be who you want and do as you please, get a vibe out and show him what makes you buzz, tell him tonight you are in charge and he will do as you tell him for as long as you tell and then return the fave. If he's not doing it right dont blame him huni, take some of the blame on yourself for not taking the time to show how you like it done.

If he's not lasting very long get him to wear a condom which will reduce his sensitivity, buy a c*ck ring which will increase (and hopefully maintain) his erection, get some films out or something where there's lots of girl action so that he can really see what you want and yearn for or also on top is a good one to keep him going cos you can control the depth and pace... Dont be so hasty to jack you fella in just because he's not up to standard, work on him, talk about what you BOTH want and like, you could blow each others minds!!!!

If that fails than yeh maybe trade him in!!

Take care and have fun

Answer 3

Has he seeked help for this? The biggest questions is...does he know that he has a problem?

He may think he is the "MAN" in bed unless you have told him otherwise.

To leave him for that is really unfair, if you haven't communicated the problem and made suggestions.

Ex: If he left you b/c he didn't like your cooking, that would be unfair, especially if he didn't tell you and give you a chance to improve your culinary skills. Unless he tells you....You may have really thought that your cooking was great.

Communication is the key!!! Then if he turns out to be a lazy lover after the fact then you may want to consider your other options!!!

Answer 4

After 4 children you have come to this conclusion and only now it bothers you? Are you sure you have not met someone else that thrills you more? Should you leave your husband may I suggest you leave him the children and you get the every other week, every other holiday visitation rights. After all it would only be right. Besides then you will have plenty of time to look for and sample the "wonder man" you are seeking. Non the less, remember you are the one getting the divorce from your husband, not your children from their dad.

Answer 5

Why did you make children with a man who is unsatisfying in bed. It seems to me if this is the only issue, your priorities are really screwed up. Is he a good father, a good provider. You are going to rip the children from their father because he is not satisfying you in bed? I have no answer for you other than you need to get some priorities in order here. Next time get married and then have children. And a stable relationship is not based on sex, grow up. God bless****

Answer 6

Marriage requires work....and I'm sure there are some things
you are doing, or not doing very well, some of which you may not even be aware of.....I suppose if he was impotent, paralyzed, or crippled you'd leave him also.....Nice. "Roger-up" and do what is necessary to SOLVE your problems TOGETHER. Start by talking to him about the problem and then work on it together with a marriage/sex counselor, if necessary, but your children deserve to have a stable life, and the two of you brought them here together.......So stop being so selfish and stick to your promises!!!!

Answer 7

Your prioritys are way off! Sexual health is important in a marriage, it is you as his partner to teach him what makes your body tingle, my husband know every in and out of what I like , and can get me there in one point two if need be.........
weve been togehter a long time, and still when it gets boring, we do something to freashen things up. If you havent learned relationships are work then what kind of example are you setting for your children? Not a good one.

Answer 8

I don't think this is a good enough reason to leave the father of your kids.... I don't know what your beliefs are.. but you could buy toys for the both of you or just for yourself since he isn't trying.... Talk to him about medication for longer lasting sex... a big change would be to suggest swinging? (having sex with other married people).. but that has to be a mutual thing... good luck hun.

Answer 9

My husband is like that some times , you need foreplay !!!!!! bring some toys into the bedroom .. you also need to talk to him and let him know your feelings. Don't just leave him because of that.. some times if a person has a very drinks that does make them hold it a little longer .. When my husband does this , he tells me I am just that dam good .. lol good luck

Answer 10

You just need to talk about this. Tell him how serious it is. Maybe you guys need to see a therapist?

I would hate to see a good marriage ruined over something like this. This CAN be fixed.

I think most people are unaware of just how great sex can be if communication and understanding are good.

He likely knows about his lousy performance and is embarrased to talk about it, but tell him you love him and you need to make this work. Tell him whatever it takes to fix it you will do it, but you expect him to do the same.