should i marry him just cause i love him trust him and dont think i want any one else. i love him with all of my heart and none of my friends lik him at all. he gets along with women and i get along with men but my friends think that he hits on all of his friends that are girls but in all reality he doesnt. he has told them all about us being engaged and if i dont like one of his friends then he tells her that they cant be friends cause i dont like her and leaves it that way. the one wont quit calling his phone so he just quit answering his phone and lets me answer. i love him and he loves me and the kids. one is his and one is not and he treats them just the same. he sees my daughter as her own and gets mad at her dad cause he doesnot want anything to do with her. its not my guy friends that dont like him its my girl friends the few i have. i personally think that they are jealous cause i am so happy. he is my fiance know and i love him with all of my heart and dont want to let him go
2006-12-18 01:32:19 · 31 answers · asked by angie f 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you love him and he is good to you and your kids, and he loves you, then by all means, marry him. dont worry about what your friends say. if you want, ask them why they dont like him, if its just because of the flirting, some guys are like that and thats the only way they know how to talk to girls. my boyfriend is very touchy. i met him when he was dating someone else, so i knew how he acted with her, then i noticed that he was always tickling and poking and trying to make our other gal friends giggle and then after they broke up and i started hanging out with him more, he would do the same thing to me. its just how he is. i know he would never cheat on me, he just likes making girls smile, and if it takes getting tickled to do it, thats what he does. i'm sure some of my friends would see it as him flirting, but i dont let it bother me.
do what you feel is right girl!!!
2006-12-18 01:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is probably some jealousy there definitely. Unfortunately, there are alot of catty women out there and the ones who still call him all the time are just like that - trying to show you what a flanderer he is - even though he isn't and trying to get your goat because they don't have the relationship skills to win over a guy like him. He's very mature to be able to let the worst ones you don't like go. Alot of men have issues with their wives because of not being mature enough to put their spouses feelings over their own and those of the other women - they end up cheating on their spouse eventually because they are more concerned about their own right to have women friends over their marriage but it's like why get married in the first place then if the one you married is no different emotionally to you than any other woman? You've got a good guy - and you need some new supportive friends. This is one of the reasons why alot of friendships won't survive your marriage but that's not your fault.
Marry him, I mean - miss out on the love of your life and be left with these unsupportive friends with their obvious personal issues or marry the love of your life? No contest.
2006-12-18 09:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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I don't know where you found this guy, I thought I had the only one, but you hang on to him with every bit of energy you have!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes, you should marry him.
It sounds to me that you two have it together, and if your really and truly love each other as much as you say, then nothing should stand in your way.
Just remember this, if you do decide to get married, do not allow others to cause a separation. You're marrying him, not your friends.
Remember all the things that went wrong in your last marriage, and let them be a lesson.
Be willing to listen to each other, and compromise.
Everyone deserves happiness, for all the right reasons.
Ask your friends why they 'really' don't like your fiance'. They may be jealous, or they may know something you don't. Maybe not.
Be open minded, don't get defensive.
Also, remember, people want you to see only what they want you to see.
2006-12-18 10:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by freakyforjesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart. It sounds like he's a good man. On average marriages only last just over 2 years now. So look at it this way. Anything over that is a bonus! On the other hand I know a few women who have waited for Mr. Right all their lives and guess what. Nobody they met was ever perfect enough for them. Don't spend the rest of your life alone.
2006-12-18 09:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by aiguyaiguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you've said, it sounds like you and your fiance love each other very much, have a good relationship, trust each other deeply, and just seem to go together well. Don't worry about your friends! Trust your heart! If you truly love him, he truly loves you, and he treats you very well, then what does it matter what your friends say? It's your life, it's your future. It seems like he'll do anything for you. Follow your heart!
2006-12-18 09:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Enceladus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your friends are either being to judgmental or maybe they are right and you just don't want to see it. Its hard to give advice on something like this when you only know the information from one source, but if your actually having to consider it, i don't dought you care for him, but maybe he just isn't really the one. i mean we all care for the people we have had relationships with in the past in some way and it isn't until afterwards that you finally see the relationship for what it was, what you thought was love wasn't or what you were avoiding really was. what it comes down to is does he make you happy? And will he still make you happy in 30 years? Do you love and care for him or are you in love with him? I think there is a difference.With children involved it does make it harder, you don't want to just drag people in and out of their lives so that must add stress to you decision... but honestly if you haven't said yes already then maybe you have already answered that question for yourself and are just afraid of hurting him, or never getting asked again.
2006-12-18 09:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by edensappletree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so what is your question ? you love him and he loves you , he is good to the kids and will do any thing for you .. who cares what your friends say , they do not have to live with him .. if they are your true friends they will learn to like him and be civil when he is around or they are not your true friends .. I have a friend that is married to this guy I can not stand , but I deal with it cause it is her life , I was even in the wedding .. you have to learn to bit your tongue some times .. I say go for it ! if your friends do not like it then you need to find some new friends .. ya they are jealous
2006-12-18 09:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and really do trust him then marry him. Its your life and you need to be happy. If your girl friends are your true friends then they will be there for you no matter what. I would not worry about what people thought. Its your decision. If he makes you happy and he is good to your children then I would marry him.
2006-12-18 10:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say follow your heart. SOmeTimes it can lead you wrong, but if you trully love him, then marry him. I'm 17 but my mom always told me, if you follow your heart, you will never go wrong. She also told me when a man finds out that you love him and you can't be without him, can't eat, sleep, or breath without him, he will dog you out. Good luck with your decision and if you do decide to marry him, let me know, I wannna come see it!!!! Good luck with your decision.
2006-12-18 09:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friends don't like him is because they know that something is not right. They love you and they are trying to protect you. Sometimes love is blind and we try to justify our significant other unexcusable behaviors and be defensive of the relationship.
I don't belive that your friends are jealous but rather concerned because they know that you deserve better.
Good luck
2006-12-18 09:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋