Am i being selfish?

Question

We recently got a new laptop....and now I am not letting him use it whenever he wants it...
My hubby always has dominated over me on every new thing we get...its by default for his use and whenever he is not using it I get to use it...
Sometimes i feel i should just let him do what he likes...and let him dominate or whatever cos i love to see him happy
Sometimes i feel I am just taken for a ride and should do something bout it...
This is not just about the laptop...but about anything... Am i being selfish here??

Yes, we've talked. He was the one who called me selfish! and he acts like he is too upset

Answer 1

I don't really think so, he is though.. You should talk to him about it.. If he loves you he'd understand..

Edit: Wow.. He's the one being selfish, from my point of view.. Sometimes I wish other girls were a bit more like you.. lol.. If you love to see him happy, shouldn't he..? Jus 'coz your female, doesn't mean he should dominate all the time.. Marriage is a thing where you're supposed to look out for one another.. Not jus one..

Answer 2

No one likes to be pushed around. You finally got fed up and so you decided to stand up for yourself. Good for you. Hopefully he will understand that this is not just about the laptop. Bad news is 2 things are going to happen 1) He's going to respect you for standing up to yourself and understand this from now on. 2) He's not going to like your change and get defencive b/c he doesn't know this side of you. Especially if you have been super nice and always catered to him. Remember for every action, there is a reaction. Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

This is ridiculous. How old are you guys, 10? You both sound like children. I bet this is not the only "problem" you guys have. Marriage is about sharing and compromise more than anything else I can think of. Time to see a counselor.

Answer 4

instead of u trying to dominate over him with laptop or anythign else u just need to sit down and talk to him. tell him how u feel about him wantng his way, etc. get it out in the open before u become too passive agressive and really do something to hurt the marriage or him

Answer 5

Whenever my wife and I get some new electronic device, I tend to take it. Electronics are my hobby and I really enjoy new toys. By the same token I try to share them with my wife. If I am using the new toy too much, my wife will tell me and I give it to her.

I would say that you should talk to your husband. Tell him that every time you get something new, he seems to always have it. Tell him that you would like more time to play with new toys.

If you cannot communicate with your husband, than your marriage will not last.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 6

oh gosh stop putting your self down
sounds like your man there is the selfish one if he wants a lap top let him go buy one you are allowed to have something for your self
get some confidants Hun and start in joying your stuff
respect
shaz

Answer 7

By the time someone's married, they should understand how to share. Most of us learn how to share when we're 5. Especially if you love someone. He should want to see you happy to. The best way to solve your problem, as i tell everyone on here, is to talk about it with him. Tgether, you can work it out.

Answer 8

You guys need to work out those issues it's way bigger than a laptop.

Answer 9

Let him know how you feel when he does certain things. That's the key to communication - not blame, but tell him how you feel.
God Bless:)

Answer 10

Nope, you are not being selfish. But remeber you two need to compromise.