I want to transfer to a college out of state but my parents are against it because I would have to leave them?

Answer 1

Well, that and the fact that they will have to pay your out of state tution.

Answer 2

Although you can transfer school without your parents' permission it would make things easier if you had their support. As parents they are worried about you. This is a huge change in their life too. I would suggest approaching them as a responsible, mature adult. Explain why you want to transfer. Focus on issues such as the majors available at the new school, how it can improve your career choices, etc. Highlight areas that are unavailable locally. Then discuss finances. Do your homework first, maybe even talk to a financial aid counselor at your current school. Discuss the increases in expenses (dorm costs, food) but also talk about scholarships and financial aid you would qualify for. By showing them how you can be mature this may decrease their anxiety a little and allow to look at the situation more objectively. Good luck.

Answer 3

You really need to sit down and calmly have a heart to heart with your parents. What are their fears with you leaving them? Find out what is their concerns so you can address those issues. Do it in a mature manner to show them you can handle being 'away from home'. I hope it isn't just that they don't want you to leave the nest. You don't say if you are an only child or something has happened before that may cause them to be concerned.

Also, will transferring to the other college be better for your degree and field of study? Certain colleges are know for specific programs and business target graduates for those majors.

Good luck. I hope it doesn't come down to a grudge match.

Answer 4

Michael, take it from a 32-year-old who still lives an hour away from his parents . . . it has to be your decision.

I had a 4.0 in high school, and had big dreams. They were stupid dreams, but they were ambitious, and I wonder how things might have been different if I hadn't let my dad talk me into going to the local college.

As it happens, I'm 32 now, and feel like I haven't done anything with my life. I now want to take advantage of an opportunity in another state, but that will mean moving seven hours further away from my parents, who are now elderly. My siblings still live kind of close, but the decision to move now is harder than ever.

Leaving is never, ever easy. The tough thing is getting your folks to understand it is not an indicator of how much you love them, but what you have to do. If you haven't seen the movie Unbreakable, go rent it. It's one of my favorites, and really hits home about how a man will be unhappy unless he feels like he's doing in life what he's supposed to.

Answer 5

It's human nature for parents to want their kids to be close to them throughout your entire life. After all, you''ll always be their baby boy or baby girl.

However, there comes a time in everyone's life when it's time for the kids to have their own lives and do what's best for them, not what's best for mom and dad.

My suggestion is to explain to your parents that you're an adult now who needs to live your own life, and that what's best for you right now is to go to school at ......

Granted, mom and dad would prefer to have you home with them, partly because you're still their child, but also partly because out-of-state tuition is expensive, and often more than if you had stayed home. Plus, they might be thinking that you'll get as good an education here at home as you would away.

You need to explain to them that it's your life and here's why you feel it's best to go away to school. Focus on your desire to experience something new, be on your own as an adult for the first time, get a solid education, and that you'll always be their child and won't be out of touch. You'll be able to stay in touch by phone, email, and can visit from time to time, so you're not going to be out of their lives. But there comes a time when it's time for a child to live life on his or her own. And lastly, you can even remind them what it was like for them when they had to leave the nest for the first time.

And if they're worried about the money issue, you can explain to them that you'll be receiving or can get financial aid, possibly establish residency there and get in-state tuition. But most of all, you'll be getting a rock solid education that's well worth the money because it will ultimately benefit you after graduation.

KEYS are that you're an adult, will always be their kid, will always love and keep in touch with them nomatter where you are, and know that this decision is right for you and will be best in the end.

Answer 6

I have found that parents, although loving, can muddle up a persons life. I have been in this dilemma and I am going to have to move away from them to keep it from going on any longer. Sometimes one has to do what is right for themselves even though it may not seem like the best thing to do.

Answer 7

its ok explain to them that you love them this something you really feel strong about and if you don't do it you'll regret it promise to keep in touch often and to come home as often as you can buy a web cam and talk on that to them so it'll be like your still at home

Answer 8

Tell them you want to learn to be independent and look after yourself.

Answer 9

who is paying for the education?