Do you think its rude for the in laws to never give a gift when you do every x-mas eve party?

Question

I don't expect anything but I feel taken advantage of.

Answer 1

yes they are quite rude, and mean!

Answer 2

It doesn't sound like you have a good relationship with your in-laws. Usually when people don't give a gift in return the message is that they don't want to exchange gifts with you or that they are selfish, insensitive or self serving. Some people go through life with their hands out all of the time and have a sense of entitlement. Personally, the feeling of being taken advantage of outweighs the feeling of giving. There is no financial reason not to give a gift. People can hand make a gift, bake cookies, a cake or go to the Dollar Store to pick up an item. Many families pick names out of a box to give a gift to. That might be your solution. BUT, stop playing the victim and take action. Also, why do you always have to host a Christmas eve party every year? Why don't they?

Answer 3

Well your choices are:

1) Dont give. Do this and chances are you will feel bad because you didnt.

2) Keep giving. The gift you give is a gift to yourself anyway.

2 is obviously the right answer:

Two wrongs don't make a right. Cutting someone off is not a solution but a stonewall that will never lead to a change. Continue to lead by example and maybe one day the gift of christmas will touch their hearts and they will see the error of their ways.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. This is what Jesus said and the holiday is about him, not some fat guy in a red suit and who gives the biggest gifts.

Answer 4

No, it's not rude. Maybe you're just childish for expecting a gift. Christmas is supposed to be about giving and about togetherness. It's people like you that make me a Scrooge. I can't stand Christmas because people have these stupid expectations instead of just loving each other and enjoying each others' company.

Answer 5

Well Christmas is not supposed to be all about the pressies so if it were me I would not think that it was rude. Just the time together would be a great gift. I would continut to give them a gift because it makes me feel good to know that I gave. Good luck and Merry Christmas.

Answer 6

If they are not even helping with the party, then they are very rude. Do they get gifts for other family members? If not then they either can't afford gifts or are the rudess people. Continue to give the party for those who do appreciate it, I'm sure you get some joy from giving it. Merry Christmas Donna B

Answer 7

Yes, very rude. It's also rude to give a crappy gift (like McDonald's gift certificates or something like that). We all have relatives that do those selfish, rude, jerky things and I think we should all go on strike against these people and hold their gifts for ransom until they cough up enough dough to cover the years of abuse we have endured! Down with Xmas A-Holes!

Answer 8

What do you mean by "when you do every Xmas eve party"?
Are you saying that you and your spouse host a Xmas eve party or attend one?

If you host it and they are not bringing a hostess present?
Are they not bringing YOU a present but they bring your spouse or kids one?

I do not understand the meaning of your question.

But I have another one for you; do you give them a present?
Are they on a fixed income and do not have much money?

Remember the TRUE spirit behind gift giving is that it is better to GIVE than to receive.

Answer 9

It's rude ... but maybe they don't have the financial where-with-all to afford one. However, everyone can bake something, anything, in lieu of purchasing a gift to exchange. It's just good etiquette, if gifts are exchanged, to have something to return to someone who gives you one.

Answer 10

They are giving you a hint, miss. If this has been going on for more than 3 years, they must feel like they are driving a dull nail through a thick plank.

Answer 11

Gift are given because you want to give them. If we expect to break even we will be disappointed.