I have had new neighbours move in next door,a young couple in there early 20's.Thing is I can hear them having

Question

Sex,its very loud,etc moans,groans,bed hitting our wall and slapping of flesh.At first I found it quite funny, but now after 2 months of constant noise and being woke up every night its getting me down.Should I confront them or what? PLEASE HELP.

Answer 1

I had that same problem, except the couple lived in the apartment above me. That was years ago, but if I had it to do over, I'd casually meet the male neighbor, and simply ask him if he could pull his bed away from the wall so it wouldn't bump up against your wall when your sleeping. That should give any considerate person a clue as to your problem.

Answer 2

The only way you can do this tactfully is say your hearing some 'noise' at night and could they possible try and keep it down a little because of 'XYZ'.
Maybe you have kids, your a light sleeper, just make something up if not.

I sort of agree with the above but i could see it would get annoying after a while, especially if you have family staying over.

Other than that, if you don't want to do this face to face drop a note through the letter box saying more or less the same thing, they might not even know it was from you then.

Answer 3

I had something of the same experience when living in an apartment. A single women lived right above us and while not every night I do know what you mean.

However look at it this way. If you could, would you trade places with then? Aren't they enjoying just what you would like to be doing? The noise is one thing, you can always ware ear plugs, but the idea of it is what wares you down.

Get some good ear plugs for those nights you don't want to be bothered. Then enjoy the show on those other nights.
Why would you want to embarrass them for something you wish you could be doing. Leave them alone. Let them enjoy each other.

What a world this would be if we all could be doing that....and that often.

Answer 4

Yes this is a problem. I have had similar difficulties in the past. Sometimes I think there is a certain type of young lady who ENJOYS knowing she is probably being heard.

One solution I found was to play inappropriate music. For instance every time I heard them shagging, I used to play the theme from the Lone Ranger. Always the same tune. If you find something that is really embarrassing- but funny at the same time- this can work. It makes them laugh, too. Keep it light.

It's not worth falling out with your neighbours over this issue , I can tell you that.

Answer 5

Hopefully...they would be a bit embarassed if they knew how loud they were being. I think you should talk to them,,,but dont interupt. Approach them during the day and be nice about it. Just let them know how extreamly loud it is. Offer sugesstions on moving the room around or even playing some music ( maybe the sounds will blend in a little) Im sure they will be embarrased and try to fix the problem. If not...them try to top them! Even though its loud...you have to admit its probebly a bit stimulating! If they wont calm down ,,,why should you.

Answer 6

once had this problem but the couple where in there 50s. Very scary thought as the guy looked pathetic and the women was a bit of a whale. I just threw a huge party then when he came to complain gave him what for. he has since moved his bed to another room. With them being younger tho you might want to avoid asking them as they will probably be offended though a quick mention over a coffee mite give them an indication.

if you have kids just mention that there bedroom is joined to your kids room and its waking them up at night. They might move then

Answer 7

Exactly the same thing happened to me- I wish I could bring back my old-lady neighbour!

It is delicate situation and how to resolve it depends on you and your own personality. I sorted it out by knocking loudly on the wall when they were in the throes of passion thus letting them know they could be heard!

My friend had the same issue and when it started happening one night when her friends were round they all started clapping and cheering then stood outside the other house holding up score cards- that sorted it out too!

The other option is to **blushes** talk to them! You can address it directly or go round to drop in a box of chocolates for Christmas and in conversation mention how thin the walls are! If they don't take the hint then try one of the options above!

Answer 8

Change the location of your bed.
Wear earmuffs.
Drown them out with un-romantic music for a few nites til they get tired of it, (Maybe they will approach you and ask you to stop, then you can make a deal with them!)
Say loud things while this is happening, like "Oh Wow! Terrific" Moan and groan with them! etc...you get the picture!
Make a recording of them, or your own recording of these noises, and play it after they quiet down!
:~)...good luck!

Answer 9

Talk to them. If they are normal people and are not aware that you can hear them then I would just knock on the door one day (not while they are in the middle of it) try to talk with them sensitively about the matter. If they still don't respond to for request then go to the landlord. If this is always after hours call the cops.

Answer 10

whilst we first moved into our place of abode some years in the past, we heard the subsequent door friends scuffling with. We the two agreed that if it occurred back, we could call somebody...we in simple terms did no longer desire to possibility this being a type of uncommon events & calling the law enforcement officers over no longer something. nicely, 2 nights later, it occurred back...and we suggested as. It ended up getting tremendously nasty, and that i'm happy we suggested as to get an officer over there. So, i could call in case you think of you need to...have confidence your gut feeling.