If your sons or daughters are lying about your parenting to achieve sympathy from an over-reative public, friends, family, community, wives, girlfriends, husbands, boyfriends, etc. What would you do?
Clear boundaries have been set. How does one deal with those who overreact to them by reacting all over a parent? Do you find that those who label it as sin or mental health issue instead of attempting to help them are attempting to live their rebellious childhood out on you?
2006-12-18 00:34:45 · 7 answers · asked by GoodQuestion 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
They don't want anyone to know they have a relationship with us...scenerios are assigned from other people's pasts along with people who reactors. They were used to make their mom and dad feel better in and out of previous marriages by ex spouses so they were preyed on constantly. This was the only way they could get attention. Compasion/understanding and fit-to-be-tied is our middle name. We love them dearly but absolutely do not appreciate being used and clearly stated this to them.
2006-12-18 01:16:07 · update #1
Why would the children feel the need to get sympathy from the "public"? I would wonder how good the communication is between the parents and the child in this question.
2006-12-18 00:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by dearreal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these people are lying about the parenting in this case. are you sure that your bounderies that you have set are reasonable in the case that you are talking about..
You do realize that if they finally talk to the right people enough times that they could come take the kids out of the situation that they are complaining about as an abuse issue or neglect issue..
Do you have anyone that sees that the kids are lying for sympathy that will back you up and say that they are lying about you..? If not you had probably better sit back and reassess you boundrys that you think are so clear .. and re-adjust them to be more accomidating to all concerned.
You are now in a world where we can't control our children the way that we think any more the Goverment has taken that right away from us by giving the kids the right to go and ***** when they don't think what we do or say is right anymore..
What they don't realize when they are doing this that they will be removed from the home and possibly not be able to come back home..
so do what you think is right and deal with what comes out of it later,
Hope everything works out for you..
Family is all give and take..
2006-12-18 00:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just continue doing what I am doing. As long as you are not being abusive mentally or physically or emotionally to your children. Yes of course they should have boundaries. And as they grow the children will probably thank you for enforcing such. Just let the people say what they want. Know in your heart you are doing the right thing. God bless****
2006-12-18 00:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the real issue here isnt what the other people think but why your children are doing this.
Perhaps there is something in your relationship with them that is making them reach out to other people for support.
Or they could just be being kids.
2006-12-18 00:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by delprofundo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send your sons and daughters over to their house for a weekend, ask if they can help give you a break from what they perceive as a "sin or mental health issue" I wonder how they'd feel after that.
2006-12-18 00:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by Chele 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell them the way to stop lying is one lie at a time. Ask when did they start believing that you were a bad parent? Before you ask them - ask yourself the same question. Ask who taught them to lie?
2006-12-18 00:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, what's your point?
2006-12-18 00:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by I am marrying her only. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋