I am broken inside. I have been split up with my partner (of 3 years) for 4 months. When he finished it the whole thing came as a shock to me. After 2 weeks my ex told me that there will always be love between us, but that were just too many obstacles in our way (im from uk and he from canada). Around every month I get a phone call from my ex crying telling me he wishes things were different, and that maybe we should think about trying to move countries as I am the only person he can think of, he is finding it impossible to move on. Although I have my doubts we can overcome all our geogrphical problems (visas etc) I am ecstatic that we a could try.
However this lasts a few great weeks, and then my ex says it just wont work, there is too many pressures and complications, and its impossible to make us work under all the stress of money visa's etc..
When he does say this, I feel like we're breaking up all over again. It just happened again and im just so low and empty inside!
2006-12-18 00:33:05 · 10 answers · asked by Sophie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so sorry life is looking bleak for you with this man
but to be honest you sound such a nice person you could find happiness with some one new
Don't keep putting your self throw this pain
get your self confident and happy and start again i no it is easy for me to sit here tapping away but honest most of us have been through heart ache
you will have to bite the bullet and let him go because he will make you ill and you don't need that
I think it would be in your interest to let go
i wish you every happiness in what ever you do
respect
shaz
2006-12-18 00:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu ahve to be practical. I know that this hurts but you have to see the realities instead of fantasize about what could happen "one day'. Should, could, would doesn't count and good intentions are not enough. A couple needs to have a physical connection and it hurts when you are not with the person that you care about and seeing everyone else around you enjoying teh company of their significant other.
Unfortunately, distance IS an issue and you have to understand that your partner realized that is impossible to consume your relationship with you and that relocating etc. is just too much. You have to let it go.
Good luck
2006-12-18 09:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say that it is impossible to make things work out for you because of financial, emotional and visa problems then it is time to let go so that the healing can begin. Don't let your heart get hurt over and over again because you are the one that holds the key to your heart. Don't let him drag out what is not possible. It is time for the healing to begin and for you to find happiness elsewhere. Be strong and be happy. Life is too short to let someone break your heart repeatedly.
2006-12-18 09:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by bethany g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The definition of insanity is to do the same thing in the same situation over and over again and expect different results. So, stop it. Take a proactive approach: call him up and tell your EX that he is your EX and that's that. Tell him what you liked about your relationship, and then reiterate that it is over. Tell him that you will not be accepting his calls anymore because you will be pursuing other directions in your life. In other words, save yourself the heartbreak, and tell him good-bye once and for all.
2006-12-18 08:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's using you as an emotional crutch...you need to move on and cut ties. If he really loved you as much as he says, and he was going to be your man, then he'd act like a man and take the necessary steps to be with you instead of calling you up whinning about all the logistical complications.
2006-12-18 08:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stop all communication. It might hurt at first but you need to move on. If you continue like this you will keep getting depressed and feeling empty. Find someone new where you live...and try to get over him and tell him he needs to do the same.
2006-12-18 08:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you truely WANT a relashionship, your both going to have to figure something out that works. Not this "well, maybe this", or what if this or that". If you two really want to be together, you will find a way, nothing could keep you apart. However, he sounds a bit weak and unsure, so watch it.
2006-12-18 08:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truly loved u as much as he says, he would make a way. when he mantions complications, could he now be involved with someone else, and no longer thinks it so impossibble to move on. he is inconsistant and unreliable, and u can't depend on him to work out difficulties, or problems, as he gives up too easily.
2006-12-18 09:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be it's for the best.he maybe looking for excuses to end it .you need to pick yourself up and go back out on the dating seen again.my daughter just broke up with her guy of four years and he rings crying and its hard as she feels guilty and its back on then off again.good luck and takecare
2006-12-18 08:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by diane o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't keep doing this...either find a way to make it work or make a clean break .....good luck
2006-12-18 08:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋