I've just turned 35 and I feel as if my husband doesn't see me as he use to . Is this just a part of getting older or is this something I really need to pay closer action to ?
2006-12-18 00:31:43 · 16 answers · asked by Georgia Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Focus on how you see yourself. If you are happy and confident, your husband will see you the way you were before. Keep yourself fun and exciting and that is what he will love the most. Don't spend too much time focusing on this because it can become a daily issue and that will really make you different. Your hubby just wants to see his fun, secure wife and you still are, as long as you change the way you are thinking.
2006-12-18 01:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by Maizy * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's normal. It happens in most marriages. It is a part of getting older on both people. Try not to read between the lines and as everything else, communicate and ask if you are really bothered by it. He will convince you that he is just stressed out or busy, things like that. Don't worry too much sweetie! We all go through this.
2006-12-18 08:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More details would be good. Ho wlong have you been married etc etc????
He probably see's you in a different way because you are married, and he is comfortable with you. We all take things for granted the older we get an often don't realise. Maybe in your husbands eyes you don't see him the same either.
Is there are any real reason you should worry?
Talk to your husband. Trust honesty and communication are the key to survival.
2006-12-18 08:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by loza500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without the effort of both people, all relationships will slowly drift apart. That feeling of excitement and love you had initially was mostly a chemical reaction which eventually wears off. Love has to be revived constantly. Start getting back into each other. Stay fit and frisky. Be intimate (not sexual) with him. Let him know he is the only man for you and that you are proud and thankful for him.
In the end he has to put effort into to it also. So good luck.
2006-12-18 08:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by HonestGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both your assumptions is correct, of course you dont expect your husband to react the way he does when he first met you and I am pretty sure you also doesn't see him as you use to.
However sustaining a relationship and "the feeling" needs effort from both end.
Look around you and I am sure you will notice women's whom are married with kids, try effortlessly to maintain their looks, by dressing up nicely, pampering themselves with facials, spa, massages and etc. Men's will occasionally send flowers to their wife, take them for a short getaway and etc.
So effort must come from both side.
Good luck
2006-12-18 08:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by Rosy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 35 & I have started seeing things that have probably been here for years that I never noticed. I think you are just starting to wake up & see things in your life.
2006-12-18 08:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 17 years...I always see my wife as a woman that I love.
Sure...getting older has something to do with it but if he truly loves you...it may just be a phase he is going through.
I'm 47...wife is 43...I went through something very close to what you are describing.
2006-12-18 08:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you probably aren't like you used to be and neither is he. We all change, and now is a good time to re-evaluate your life and your attitude. The truth is we don't get any younger, what are some things that you'd like to do that would be fun, that would include your husband, that would give you a zest for life like younger people seem to have?
2006-12-18 08:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't stay young forever. If you think your hubby isn't looking at you the same way, then do something about it. Diet, exercise, dress sexier, start wearing makeup, get a new hair cut, wear lingerie more ......... there's plenty more things to do to get his attention and to make yourself feel more attractive.
2006-12-18 08:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rise early in the morning after mouthwash drink 4 glasses of water(1 glass each initerval of 7 minutes four times) do TADASAN IN interval of drinking water.
after emptying the stomach go to morning walk, do light exercise & jogging in garden. then come back to home chew 10 leaves of neem &drink it with water.
then take breakfast,
after lunch & dinner walk for 15 minutes.
do medication in night.
follow it.
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2006-12-18 08:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by Udit D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋