What do you do when your in laws are out to get you? And is subjecting you to their negativity and accusing you of doing things that you do not do? I can't even talk innocently to old friends who are male, because they consider it cheating and because of my life prior to marriage.. whatever they think, it's just not the case. So my phone is tapped and they get into my emails! I'm not doing anything wrong, but it seems like they are dying for me to make one bad move. What control freaks. What does a lady do in this situation?
2006-12-18 00:09:31 · 15 answers · asked by lady from the other day 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time for your husband to stand up to his relatives and tell them to lay off.
2006-12-18 00:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by jack w 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon
you're not the only one, believe me!
I did ANYTHING with my own in laws... let alone i've changed country, home, friends - for this marriage.
I licked them like licking an ice cream.
Instead of taisting the ice cream, i tasted a glue on my tongue. Poison!
Avoid your in laws, don't call, don't try. I have given up. I wrote a letter and they were shocked. It was awful at first, but slowly it is going weak and weak. I don't see them now. I did send them flowers before christmas... but that's all.
They can lick each other's a**... and realise that they are loosing someone that would even take care of them when they'd be old and disabled to walk or talk.... THEIR LOSS!
GIVE UP TO ASK FOR LOVE
LOVE YOUR HUSBAND AND DON'T TELL HIM MUCH EITHER. THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE HIS MUM/DAD. NOT YOURS!
CHILL!
2006-12-18 01:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by Zuska K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My in laws are the same i try and stay out there way my in laws are a joke they don't come round no more because i had to put a stop to it
my husbands mum and brother are so controlling i have nothing t6o do with them my husband goes see them but i refuse to have them in our home
good luck because i no how you feel i really do
respect
shaz
2006-12-18 01:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by sharon B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave now!
I almost married a man who was under his mommas thumb.He told her everything including what we did in bed.he lied to me to make me think he was a state cop and then got fined for impersonating a police officer cos as it turned out he was only a prison guard.
After he moved me in with him against his mothers wishes as he left her home for ours I was forced to spend all my money on food for his 2 kids and bills while he paid the rent but ran up my phone bill to an ungodly amount monthly chasing his out of state child support payments.My free time was spent entertaining his kids and their friends who they could'nt survive without spending the night with them.I was nothing but the towns free babysitter.Everything the kids said was written in stone.So if I said no to anything they ran to grandma who repeatedly attacked me and my parenting skills.
She told me to pack my things and go from my house!
Thank God I got out of that mess.
If your man won't stand up for you then he's not worth the effort.Let him spend his life under his parents control like this guy has since the day I dumped him.
I see him around occasionally.Always with his mommy who he still lives with.Probably sleeps with her too.
I married my old boyfriend and evan tho we ignore them in public the old lady still makes rude comments about my being in the same place as her.
The last time I heard her comment about not being able to enjoy her meal with trash like that who just walked in I had to look her in the eye from across the room and loudly announce that maybe hateful folks who're so close to meeting their makers should learn that the way into heaven is'nt by trying to make others so miserable.And if someones dinner has been ruined by sitting near trash they should probably stop eating with their dinner partners.He was so embarrassed he drug her from the place.
2006-12-18 01:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There must be some reason that they don't trust you....Sounds like you live with them??? If so, move....add security to your email account and get the tap off the phone...all pretty easy to do if any of this is real.....
2006-12-18 00:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your husband to handle it & if he is not man enough you have got to tell the in laws that you are going to press charges on them cause they are taking it way to far with a tap on phone & reading e-mails.
2006-12-18 00:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by "karma" 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all, try to live an indpendent life with your husband. if you are happy with your husband, everything will be fine. try to get the power of IGNORING your in-laws and their behavior. you can't change them and they cant change you. they got no right into messing with your emails, privacy or anything else related to you. if you are wise, try NOT to get in any type of conversation with them. keep quiet and straight forward. however, if you think you are dumb and not wise, then you can easily start yelling at them and throwing stuff at them to go beyond what they do to you.
2006-12-18 00:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by Amir 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHO DID YOU MARRY IN THE FIRST PLACE?
IF YOU ALLOW FOR THEM TO RUIN /RUN YOUR LIFE SO BE IT.......WHAT DO YOU HUSBAND HAVE TO SAY ABOUT ALL THIS MESS? AND ON THE OTHER HAND MISERY LOVE COMPANY.... IF HE ALLOW THIS TOGO ON AND DON'T STAND UP FOR YOU... ITS TIME FOR YOU TO LET HIM GO..... HE HAVE TO HAVE TRUST IN YOU..INSECURE IN NOT TO GOOD IN MARRIAGE.... SIT HIM DOWN AND COMMUNICATE WITH HIM AND LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THE WHOLE SITUATION AND GO FROM THERE.. ABOUT THOSE NOISY *** IN-LAWS TELL THEM OFF , AND LET THEM BE.....ITS NOT THEM ALONG YOUR HUSBAND IS PLAYING A PART ALSO.... KEEP YOURSELF CLEAN BOO ANDYOURE COME OUT ON TOP... PROVE TO THEM PEOPLE CAN CHANGE.. DON'T DO IT FOR THEM DO IT FOR YOURSELF.....
2006-12-18 01:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your husband needs to stand up to them and they need to learn to not get into your relationship, it will only get worse if you do say something, believe me I know,just tell your husband to talk to them, how does he feel about it? I suggest you go to www.ihatemyinlaws.com, its not a hateful website , there are just many others who are in your situation, believe me, its a great place to vent
2006-12-18 11:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by Summer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lady knew these things when the lady married into this family,so all the lady can do now is continue to be good and never give them anything to find.usually a persons past is a good indicator of their future,so prove them wrong.
2006-12-18 00:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get out of the marriage, I mean, if your husband is letting this happen which he obviously is then its time to have it stop or get out of the marriage.
2006-12-18 00:18:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋