He yelled at me yesterday because I sent him and mom a holiday card in the mail. He said that I should spend .50 on card and .39 for a stamp. He said that since I visit every other weekend, I shouldn't spend money on cards and might lose my job in the next few months. He is mad because I wouldn't write his Christmas cards to his friends and neighbors that he hadn't seen for several years. They don't call him or visit him why should he waste money on cards and postage. That was a mean thing he said to me. He said that I am so mean because I wouldn't write out his cards for him. He said did you write to cousin so and so. I told him last week, I told him no because I don't want to write any Christmas cards. I just limited to my brother and my parents, boyfriend and two close friends really. I just want to reduce my Christmas card list for economic and personal reasons. I told him that that is his X-mas card list not mine. Am I wrong for standing up to him for rejecting my card
2006-12-17 23:50:40 · 5 answers · asked by Contessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Contessa, this is about more than just a Christmas list. It sounds like your Dad is angry at something else. No your not wrong for letting your feelings known to him. Something to think about, something may be bothering your Father and maybe you should ask him what it is. Tell him to put the issue with the Christmas list aside and just tell you what is going on that is making him so miserable and angry. Because he is making other peoples lives miserable by being so grumpy. This is a time of year it seems that some people do get upset. It could be anything from finances to anniversary dates. What I mean is, if he was a Vet and something happened to him near a certain date this could be making him feel stressed too. That is what I mean by anniversary date. So try to talk to him, if he doesn't want to talk then you tried. Just tell him you love him, your there for him whenever he needs to talk. Plain and simple. If he brings up the card issue, then say that topic is off limits right now. Its about you now not cards. Tell him you will always be his little girl and just love him. Sometimes Dad's go through alot this time of year. And your just a sound board for him right now so try not to take it personal. Enjoy the holidays with your family. Feliz Navidad! Merry Christmas.
2006-12-18 00:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with a divorced man who had 2 beautiful daughters. He treated them horribly just because he was a mean old man, mad at the world. He says mean things to you because he feels it's his right to treat you like crap. He would never talk that way to a big guy because they'd beat the ---- out of him. If you don't stand up for yourself, nobody will, but not if your afraid of him physically harming you. Your money is your business. Does he tell you everything about his finances and does with them what you tell him?
2006-12-18 00:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by Tracy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way u should stand up to him and not let his whining or guilt trip play on you. if he wants to send these peeps cards then he can break down and write hisself, he obviously doesn't care about the cards to the people or he would do it himself he just wants the recognition. you could always pull a menedez on him if he doesn't straighten up. hey they got off the first time...lol
2006-12-17 23:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by hotrod111075 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shop your self from sneaking into the visitor room by making use of in simple terms no longer doing it. shop your self busy and don't think of roughly it. could your husband be that naive to no longer understand what is going on?
2016-10-15 04:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by seabrooks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how much dose it really mattrer. write the cards for the guy, someday he will be gone and you will wish you did things like this for him
only dad you got, treat him right
2006-12-17 23:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋