I'm in my early 20's with a 6 month old baby. I am a single mum but have been seeing a really lovely guy for the past 2 months (he is not the baby's dad).
He's great with my baby, but his parents aren't. He's told me that they don't approve of me, and want him to end it with me simply because I have a baby.
This is putting quite a bit of strain on our relationship and I don't know if I can take much more. He says he loves me, and it doesn't bother him that I have a baby.
I don't want to cause a rift between him and his parents though. Help!
2006-12-17 23:44:20 · 16 answers · asked by Don't Tickle Elmo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's him that needs to make his mind up NOT you!!! You were happy with just your kids before he came along and you are happy with him and your kid now and if he does dump you for his parents then I am sure that you will be happy with just your kid again waiting for the right guy to come along.
2006-12-18 00:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible tells us very well that, where two people a man and a woman have joined together no man should put asurder. If he is serious about marrying you, you could live comfortably. On the other hand remember many take an advantage of using your body now that you have a baby they think you are that cheap to give in. Let it not be for another baby especially now that you are so hot as at this moment for sex, dont give in dear, check on his seriousness first.
2006-12-18 00:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by macho knatcos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not causing a rift, his parents are. He is clearly mature enough to deal with you having a baby and he isn't that bothered about what his parents think. They sound like they're control freaks and frankly not very nice people. I bet they always find something wrong whoever he's with. Try not to get involved with them, every relationship has its downside- in his case it's his parents, but you sound like you have a great guy who says he loves you and is good with your baby, men like that are hard to find!
2006-12-18 00:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by Miss J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day you're new man is a a grown up and his family can have their opinions and that is all they are . He has made it clear to you that he isn't concerned at the fact that you have a baby and why should he be bothered .
So you need to forget about his parents they are not part of you-re relationship and seems as though they dont want to be , so dont worry about them or their feelings as they are clearly not worried about youres .
Get on with your life and let them get on with theirs . Take it from some one whose own family dissaproved of my childrens father of whom I was with till recently for 13 yrs , you dont have to have youre family involved with every little detail . Look at youre child dad he didnt feel the need to stick about ( Not Being Rude Just Making A Point ) so as I say his parents are irrelevant to youre new relationship . GO AND HAVE A GR8 XMAS WITH UR BABE AND UR NEW MAN XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-12-18 00:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question is: do you have time and the desire to wait and know him and his family more? You have only been together for two months, and it is possible that his parents will warm up to you. Then again, they may not. It sounds like you really like him, so my suggestion would be to give it some more time. Finally, however, you have to ask yourself if this situation is creating too much misery for you and if it is worthwhile to endure it. If you cannot enjoy your time with him, then moving on may be the best choice. And though we can all give you this advice, finally you are the one in the situation, and I hope you can trust yourself to make the best choice for you and your baby.
2006-12-18 00:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by topchris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore them and whatever they say about you. they are just being selfish at the moment, but time will come they will realise that their son is no longer a baby that he is old enough now to choose his own path of life. there are lot of parents out there who's like that and they end up to realisation. so just wait patiently, and as long as the man you loved is always there for you spoiling you with lots of love that's the most important for now.
2006-12-17 23:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by Simply_Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think parents know better. he is probably too young for u cos u already have a child. try to find someone older - in his 30, he will have a steady job and maybe some hint of a career. do not distroy the life of a young guy. i wish he listened to his parents
2006-12-17 23:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just concentrate on your baby and your b/f.Other family members are not important.As long as he loves you both thats all that counts.Just rise above them and you,ll be fine im sure his loyalltys stand with you.Dont hold your breath on them coming round.......my exs parents never did and it caused alot of heartache.Good luck x
2006-12-17 23:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Nellynoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his parents sound like snobs. im in a simillar situation, but iv been with ma man for 3yrs now. dont care what the parents say. Stand your ground. Also you'll find its his mother saying all this not his father. been there done it all. good luck!!
2006-12-17 23:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait patiently.
It has to be his decision. Things will eventually come to a head between him and his parents. If he really thinks that much of you, he will tell them to accept it and stop interfering. They will be put in their place and you will know.
2006-12-17 23:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋