My friend was so sensitive. She asked me to buy some gifts for our teacher. And I don't have money. But I got a lot of money inside my wallet. She asked me to buy a shirt, alarm clock, bear, perfume, picture frames. And all in all it was $15! And my money was only $10 I only bought the bear and the shirt. When I told her I only bought the bear and shirt, She got mad, She said she doesn't want people who make promises that they can't keep. (yeah I agree) But I didn't say promise. I didn't want to be a slave for her. She's just child-minded or something. Help! How can I change her personality? She's my bestfriend I don't wanna leave her, That's the only thing I dont like on her!
2006-12-17 23:15:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
R u sure that she's your best friend?... don't let her take u for granted... btw "i don't have money. But i got a lot of money inside my wallet"?? What do u mean by this? Didn't u want to spend some money on the teacher's gift, although U had? Or... ? Better discuss with her! She should understand that her behaviour is sometimes exaggerated! Good luck!
... and U sometimes can change someone's personality, sometimes U can't... I dunno if it works in your situation... U could try! But if U have a friend U accept even his/her negative parts ( if they aren't too negative)... That's why u like him/her, don't u? Everyone has good and bad sides... That's why everyone is unique :)
But I think u'll help your friend by telling her the truth. Perhaps, u're a tollerant person and for egs u just remain silent.. But not all persons are like u! Some could start to avoid her if she overreacts all the time... and then she'll feel really bad. Sooo... talk to her!
2006-12-17 23:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by arya 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay technically your in the wrong for not speaking up before hand and saying that you couldn't afford the things especially if you didn't want to buy them. You have to understand that your real friends will still be your friends if you don't agree to things you just can't do. Was it right for her to ask you in the first place only you can decide about how you feel about that one. But technically even if you don't say I promise a commitment is still just as good as those words. This is something that will hit you hard in the real world if you don't learn it now! Most employers don't take reign checks.
2006-12-18 07:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by mistress_lilas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change someone else's personality. You need to tell her that your not the bank and if she wanted all of those things then, she should of come up with some money and helped pay for them. What? she wanted you to pay for them and give her the credit for buying the present? If I were you, you should be the one mad at her she is the one that is selfish and very ungrateful.
2006-12-18 07:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by ws_422 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wanted to get the teacher something SHE should have bought them, it isn't your responsibity to fork out money, and why buy a teacher all of that stuff anyway, sounds stupid to me, no you can't change someones personality or the way they are, get a new friend.
2006-12-18 07:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start going halfies on purchases, let her know that you can't afford to by buying everything that she wants. Stop promising that you are going to do things when you know that you don't have the money. I 'll bet she will stop asking so much. Do you reallly like going around broke?
2006-12-18 07:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your friend is a little self centered, she is not thinking right. if she wanted more for the teacher then she should had dropped a few bucks herself. you did what you could. if she contiunes to act like this, then i would suggest that you tell her how her actions are effecting you. you can not change her personalilty!! you can only change your thoughts. if you think by allowing her to get her way is going to change her, you need to think about your feelings. you don't have to give up the friendship, but just don't allow her to take advanage of you. blessings
2006-12-18 07:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by connie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to her and let her know how you feel for if she is your best friend then there shouldn't be anything that the two of you can't talk about and also let her know that you are not her bank and that if she want's to buy or get something for someone then she figures out how to get the money to do it. you can't change someone unless they know what the problem is and they want to change for themself. B honest with her and i wish you the best with her. HAPPY HOLIDAY'S!
2006-12-18 07:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by outlawprincess5321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let people make you do things you dont want or cant do. She seems to me like the manupulative type. Dont let her control you, one should be grateful for getting things from another person. If she wants more than what she gets, let her work for it.
2006-12-18 07:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by zayn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... that is overreacting to the max MAXX MAX MAX!
MAX!
ummm... i suggest give her time to miss you. if she does care about you, she would come around and see her flaw. if she doesn't... this may tell you something.
You can't change someone. They're the only ones that can change themselves. All you can do is tell them how you feel.
(sorry, but this made me feel better about my overreacting friend, lol)
2006-12-18 07:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by currentnews 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately her personality cannot be changed. Either you have to accept her as she is and learn to deal with her or find another friend for yourself.
2006-12-18 07:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋