I have recently broken up with my friend who has manic depressiondue to an argument we had, we work in same organisation. Basically I really cared for her and ended up telling her supposed partner who is living with his girlfriend that she was sleeping around, which she was, I did this because I felt that he was using her and she kept on saying the same to me.
It has now been 4 months, and I have contacted her by e-mail 3 times asking how she is and whether we can be friends. I also rang her house and apologised. Now she has reported me to the harrassment team, I have never threatened her ever and I wouldn't because I still care for her.
Was she justified in doing this? Was I harrassing her?
2006-12-17 22:36:27 · 9 answers · asked by dfsdg d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Could be!
2006-12-17 22:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesnt seem like harrassment to me, but your behaviour as a friends appears questionable. I am unsure on a couple of points you make, such as the manic depression. I don't quite understand how an arguement brings on this medical condition.
She doesn't appear to want you as a friend. While it may not be harrassment, your friend is interpreting it that way, and it may be best for you to leave things alone.
2006-12-18 06:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Noney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends.... if she told you to stop at any point, then, if you continue to ask her, either by e-mail or even worse, go to her house... then, Yes it is... and if she did not answer you back, after the first time, a second inquiry is ok, but further inquiry may be consider harrassment... so, without knowing these, you have your answer. If, she answer back, positively, to any of your e-mail, then it's not. The simple rule is: when she say stop, after that it is.
2006-12-18 06:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by Max C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she ever ask you not to contact her? If not then it wasn't harassment. If she has asked you not to contact her then it is harassment & she had a right to report you. Something about this situation tells me that she just done it to get back at you.I hope everything works out for you & I wish you a very merry christmas.
2006-12-18 06:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by roosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you don't contact her again and you should be OK. She is using a bigger hammer than needed to crack a nut and it won't come to much but you clearly need to get the message that it's over.
2006-12-18 06:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you will just have to accept that she feels that by breaking her confidence she can not trust you any more and does not want you as a friend.
2006-12-18 06:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not harassment at all. You were just trying to reach out to her and if she doesn't want that, leave her alone.
http://relationship-affairs.com/Friendship.html
2006-12-18 06:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
workplace romances are bad news. this may be construed as harrassment. just forget her.
2006-12-18 06:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never sh1t where you eat...and you should not search for ove where you work. I think you were a azz for involving yourself.
2006-12-18 06:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋