Before you crucify me, let me give you the back story.
I've been working with this guy for many months now. We've had a friendly yet totally platonic relationship. Over the last several weeks, we engaged in light/mild flirtation, nothing more. Right before he returned to the US (we're both deployed from the same unit), our flirtations grew. I asked him for a kiss before he left and he didn't say no. In fact, he encouraged it, so I kissed him.
I have since found out his wife asked for a divorce citing separation as the key factor. His wife doesn't live where we are stationed.
Now, I like to think of myself as a fairly intelligent person. Should I take this kiss as anything more than a one time kiss or is there something more?
2006-12-17 22:19:22 · 18 answers · asked by buffybeast 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Side note: This was a full fledged kiss, tongue and all. I'm not what his motivation was in all of this. He always talks about fidelity and people not engaging in sex while in a deployed environment. He's also a former Mormon.
2006-12-17 22:27:58 · update #1
if he wants something more from you he'll let you know. make sure that your source for the separation is good and founded. wait till they are officially separated before you persue this relationship. Maybe there will be a small change of hearth and he will return to his wife.
2006-12-17 22:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by trushka 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, ah, I would think that the kiss you describe could very well fall into the character of sex--- and adultery. This man already has a wife; you need to choose someone who does not already have a wife. I would be mad too if my husband was tough swapping with someone else. There are words for people like you- but Yahoo will not allow it. How do you know that you are the only one he has ever kissed other than his wife? I don't think you were his first rodeo, if you get my meaning?
You can be foolish and take this kiss and try to make something meaningful about it. You basically offered yourself to the guy on a silver platter and he took the bait.
One thing you gotta ask yourself-"If he did this to his wife and we get together, how long will it be before he does it to me?
2006-12-17 22:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by rosey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what people say, right?
Have you ever heard that "Shoop Shoop Song" from the movie Mermaids with Cher, Winona Ryder & Christina Ricci?
It`s in his kiss if he has deep feelings for you or not!
Besides, what kind of kiss was it?
Was it effectively a long & lingering passionate kiss with both tongues wrapped into one another or a simple peck on the cheek?
Xmas romances are so exciting & irresistible, aren`t they?
Good luck to both of you & Happy Holidays!!!
P.S. Where is that married soon-to-be separated man now? Back in the U.S. or still with you wherever you are? And why hasn`t he told you about his wife asking for a divorce before now or has he just found out himself about this divorce petition? Are you likely to see him again once he goes back to the U.S. at all if ever?
By the way, passion & the affairs of the heart have absolutely nothing to do with intelligence so don`t beat yourself up about it!
2006-12-17 22:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lolita Angel Rose Taylor-Kennedy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave the man alone, you should not have asked for the kiss, are you that desperate that you have to be a home wrecker. Are there not enough men in the world. And just keep in mind if he cheated with you, he will cheat on you. What looks good is not always good for you. Grow up and stop being so selfish and fantasies about "another women's husband", Pathetic, move on and find someone who is not married. God bless****
2006-12-17 22:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes this definitely means something, I think you know really what it means and have known for some time. A proper kiss like that is serious.
2006-12-17 22:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by gbgnick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always starting like that. A kiss mean to much or not to much.... many people start relations ship and the guys or women's get divorce because they are in love with somebody else...
2006-12-17 22:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,I used to date a Mormon,and that alone should be your grounds for getting away from him,unless you think you can be a perfect person(or be judged harshly for not being perfect).When at war,I think it would be very natural to be drawn to another in a life and death situation,when you are in such unstable and uncertain days together.You consider your mortality,not your morality.So,in that situation,it's hard to condemn you although I don't condone extra-marital affairs.Mormons are tough to live with unless you become one,and I think they are not very open as a culture to very diverse races and religions,so be prepared if you are an intellegent woman,to have your intellegence challenged,condemned,or insulted by his family.Good luck.
2006-12-17 22:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long has he been married, does he have kids that are still dependants, why is he separating from his wife.....they too propbably started with a kiss.....no smoke without fire baby.....separation, divorce..whatever he has a part to play in there failed marriage...what makes you think he'll stick with you...if he couldnt keep it together with the one he made a vow to.....for better or worse...etc......RUN LOLA RUN
2006-12-18 00:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes It simply means infidelity to himself and to his wife and to the promise he uttered when he got married. And it means you also sin against him against his wife and most of all against GOD.
We as Christians are instructed not to do to others what we do not want to be done to us. Are you one of us?
We are destroying life with improper relations. This is what many do, hurting each other, destroying life. Prays for a clear mind my friend.
2006-12-17 23:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to read anything into a kiss
2006-12-17 23:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋