How should I get revenge?

Question

I'm 4 months pregnant and me and my partner have a 9 month old baby. Because
I had a cesearean so recently my scar may be beginning to split. At the
weekend my partner and I were invited to a party, well I can't dance etc
with the scar so he said he would take me for a meal and cinema instead....
The week running up to it I was looking forward to it then on Saturday
suddenly WHAM he decided to go to the party without me instead and left my
in with the baby,

I called him that night, he was drunk and nasty, he split up with me, told
me he wished he never got me pregnant, that I was a bad mother etc

The next day he turned up at 3pm - don't know where he was I'd been awake
all night. He apologised and said he didn't mean anything and loves me. I
took him back, but how do I get revenge???
Now I don't want to leave him or really hurt him but I want him to realise and feel bad for what he put me through

Answer 1

You are a fu*cking loser if I ever saw one. You should have used birth control and not gotten knocked up so soon after your first one. On top of that, you aren't even married to this guy. Shame on you. You have bastard kids. I hope you're proud. Now, you have 2 kids with a guy that doesn't even want to be with you.

Here's how you get revenge. Dump his a*ss, and then take him to court and make him pay child support for both your kids. Take as much money as you can from him. This will hurt him and will possibly make him consider moving to Alaska and being a janitor for the rest of his life to avoid paying child support.

You are such a dumb a*ss for letting such a loser knock you up twice. Now your health is in jeopardy, the new baby's going to be a bastard, and you have another bastard that is probably going to end up in poverty, without ever having a chance at a good life.

Answer 2

I totally sympathise with you. You are pregnant and alone to take care of your baby, its not a lovely feeling. I'm also pregnant and stuck at home, you can feel trapped and i'm sure you do even more than me, because you look after a young baby!

I think your man's a evil bloke for blowing you off and going to the party alone, not even to mention the fact that he said all those nasty things to you. I hope you told him, he's a bad father because he is the one out getting hammered and your the one at home looking after your baby!

I can totally see why you would like some revenge, but not hurt him so much and stuff. He's probably just as stressed and has alot on his mind aswell. He probably has alot of pressure or is under alot of pressure knowing he has you, a baby and another one on the way, he needs to look and take care of.

My husband had done a simular thing to me on verious occations. He left me with his son from a previous marriage and pregnant at home. Partying all night, and got back at 6 in the morning the next day. Now i was pissed off!!!! The thing is i know he has lots of pressure from work, me, his ex, his son, family ect. so i let him off. It doesn't meen i wasn't angry, i could understand why he wanted to get out, but not with me, just him and his mates. He needed time to forget all about everything that is just becoming too much.

Now i don't know your situation, but by the sounds of it you have really thought about him and what happend that night, and you delt with the issue looking at it from all angles taking everyone's feelings into consideration. Time for revenge!!! I think you should let your boyfriend now he hurt your feelings. Be spitefull and orginise a girls night out and let him know in advance. Have a great time, maybe even try to stay at a mates house for the night.And make him take you out for a meal and cinema, or orginise to do it with your mates instead!

You should know how to make him feel bad for something that he has done. With my hubby its the silent treatment. What ever you do, good luck. You are allowed to feel the way you do, being pregnant and all.
Give him some S%$&*!!!
Good luck!

Answer 3

Too late for all of that, you have already forgiven him. You should have left the house and been done with him. Obviously you are in a for a very rocky road in the future. This was just the beginning of what is to come. Drunk or not, he should not have spoken to you in that manner, and he was not drunk when he made the decision to leave you at home alone pregnant with the baby. Strap on your seat belt you are in for a wild ride for the next 18 years. He is very selfish and self centered. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 4

Do you really need to accept that kind of behaviour? Revenge is a short term solution that will make you feel good for awhile, but won't change your partner. How long before he does it again? Are you going to forgive him every time and then just get revenge? I think a better long term solution would be to tell him that you will not tolerate being treated like that and give him one more chance. If he does it again, dump him.

Answer 5

Hey. Sounds like you really are in trouble. But if you ask me, revenge doesn't particularly seem like the best solution. Also, do you love him? I guess that that is the question that you have to answer. Because it doesn't seem that he loves you. No one who loves a person does what he did to you. But if you think he loves you, and you love him, I guess the best thing for you guys is to talk about this problem. Also, next time, try birth control. About the stitches, check with an obstetrician or your midwife. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Aw that's awful what he did/said, you're very forgiving.

So here's an idea for revenge that is just a case of the "shoe on the other foot". Plan a night out with him but also arrange a night out with your friends, get a babysitter for back up. then on the day you're supposed to go out with him, tell him at the last minute you've made other plans. revenge is sweet but don't be nasty about it - sh!t happens hey!!

Good Luck chuck :-)

Answer 7

It sounds like you've had a really hard time of it. I wouldn't try for revenge though as it will only make matters worse. tell him how much he's hurt you and how you both have shared responsibility for children that you create. If things don't get better with him I would do the dumping yourself. There are plenty of men out there that will treat you right. Good luck!

Answer 8

Revenge shouldn't even be in your thoughts to begin with. I agree how hurtful you must have felt when he uttered those nasty words. But, didn't he apologised? People do deserves second chance. However, speak with him and let him know that called because you were concerned for his safety. Advise him that he has a responsibility towards you and the kid/unborn child.

Answer 9

You don't want to leave him or really hurt him? You just want him to realise how bad you felt?

That's pretty easy. And revenge is no solution. You just need to have a serious conversation with him about this and talk this through. Let him know what you truly feels. Share your emotions. That's a key to healthy relationships.

Answer 10

Revenge isn't a great idea - you'll only feel bad afterwards too. It might be better to talk to him and get to the bottom of his feelings. With a new baby on the way, you need to know for sure if he's staying.

Answer 11

You should watch Wicked Wicked Games on My Network TV. It comes on Monday-Friday at 9pm where I am from. There is nothing better than a little scandal !!!! If you get a chance to watch the show you won't be disappointed. And oddly enough it involves the situation you describe perfectly.