my gf told me after sme months of our relation that she did oral with her bf and he s***ed her too..i was so sad that time to hear...i was at hell(she told me through phone.when we met again we talked bot this i told "its ok" with heart full of pain but i was able to forget it when i saw her..its affecting me somehow and i'm loosein trust on her..shes so much intrested to do that..we met only few times cos shes stayin in another counrty.when she says shes with friends and when i'm missin her so bad those,what she said is commin to my mind..we decided to marry next year...i don know wht kind of friends shes having their and what to say and how to forget her past..was she saying me the truth like being hornest or was she tryin to know if i'll leave her.tryin to know if am sinscre?i cant understand anything plzzzzz anyone help me!what can i do to trust her fully..i love her so much.IS SHE LOVING ME OR TRYIN TO GO AWAY FROM ME TELLIN HER STORIES OR IS SHE BEING HORNEST...my god plz help!!
2006-12-17 21:53:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should not marry this girl unless you are prepared to get divorced because that's where this one is headed. Be realistic. You are completely delusional if you think this is going to work. If she sucked someones co*ck, then you should eat some other chick out to return the favor. It's the same thing.
You are completely being played by her. You need to start treating her like crap. Women love it when you treat them like crap. They will do anything they can to try to please you. The worse you treat them, the more they will respect and try to please you. Try it. It works. Ignore her. Don't help her. Don't be at her beck and call. Don't forgive her. Lord it over her that she's strayed, and make her feel guiltier than hell.
You need to fix yourself up as well. You sound like a complete fu*cking pu*ssy. Grow some balls and be a man. Buck up and suck it in. You sound like a whiny little biatch when you asked this question. OOOHHHH. My heart is full of pain!!! Shut the fu*ck up. No wonder she's sucking someone else's co*ck.
2006-12-17 22:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I look at it like this, if you don't want to know don't ask. Plus past is the past, so what, she experemented.life goes on. Are you willing to throw away someone you love because she is not June Cleaver. Get real ok this is life and adults do nutty things sometimes for excitement. She was honest with you about the things she did. Maybe she is telling you so it doesn't come up 10 years later with old friends at a party when you are all drinking. Wouldn't that be a fun party. Love her, forget it. Now if she starts talking about you guys doing stuff like that , then get worried. I have been there and done that and the swing thing does not work for everyone.
2006-12-18 00:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by missy j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationship demands complete trust and honesty, otherwise it will be very torturing to be suspicious all the time. If her reason to tell you all those things is only because she wanted to be honest with you and that's only her past which she won't do again bec she's with you now and later after marriage, then you should appreciate it. I know it's hard for you to accept, but if it's her past and she has changed now, then she deserves your trust. But if she's still like that while she's having you now (fooling around with other men), then leave and forget her.
2006-12-17 23:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by bogey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you met up with her friends? i think you should know what kind of ppl she is hanging out with.
If you are so suspisious then make her a surprise. appear at her door with flowers in her country and see what the reaction will be. if i was in her place and had nothing to hide i would be trilled with such a surprise...
if you are getting married next year... will you keep on living in different countries... if so better think again.
does your heart say that she is sincere? if yes... then she probably is... :-)
Wish you luck... may you be happy...
2006-12-17 22:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by y_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule #1 DONT discuss your past sex life with ex's. I mean really what is the point? She should never speak of this, i feel as if she is either tying to make you jealous, or she hasn't grown up yet and it sounds as if you haven't matured to much yourself, if it bothers you so much, dump her and let her know why, i for one would not get married to her, that is another divorce waiting to happen (if you get married) TRUST is key.
2006-12-17 23:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 15:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by edme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She love u more or her ex-boyfrend? Mabey she is trying to go away from you or mabey she is very close to you and feeling guilty so she tell you ,if she still doing these thing thats mean she is trying 2 get away from you , if this is the last time, then she still wants to be with you and she still love you... you still have time to decide before your marrige ... good luck!
2006-12-17 22:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by Donna06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is being open with you.Sometimes girls don't know what things not to say in an effort to be "honest".She probably did not think it would hurt you since it was long ago.If she loves you now,you must be strong in your confidence that it is you she has chosen..
2006-12-17 21:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and get rid of her, forget about her. Find someone who has like ideas of what a relationship is about. God bless****
2006-12-17 22:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a tricky issue, if you don't trust her your relationship is in deep trouble. It sounds to me like you are insecure and that makes it your problem not hers.
2006-12-17 22:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋