so ive known this one guy for about a year now. we started to mess around and it's been going on since then. we had this mutal argeement that we would be friends with benefits but somehow that didnt work out becuase i started to fall for him. there were days that it seemed like he liked me also, but then there were times when he didnt. the only thing that confuses me is that even though he has so many options to be with other girls he always comes back to me. is it possibly that this guy might like me?
2006-12-17 21:41:04 · 11 answers · asked by morgan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Of course he always comes back to you, he knows he'll get what he wants without having to put out the effort required to have a mature relationship.
I am older and things have changed over the years but we called that f**k buddies when 2 people got together just for physical "companionship." Some would consider that being used. On the other hand, I married my "buddy" 17 years ago after having the same king of relationship for nearly a year. We are still married and still "buddies".;-)
2006-12-17 21:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k. Here's what I think. Friends with benifits is never a good Idea for then feelings can get int he way such as in your case of you falling for him for it happens where one will fall for the other and some times it happens where they do fall for one another and then there's times where it dosen't and it's a one way street. I think though that you need to talk to him and let him know your feelings ( Yes I know it's SCARY!!!!!!) but it needs to be done before more of your feelings get involved and you get hurt out of this. Men will alway's come back to what they know they can have but if you let him know that you want more out of this than the Friends with benifits then He and you will both know where he and you are in this relationship for it might be that he dose have feeling for you (which would be the good) or that he dosen't (which is the bad) and that he only comes to you cause he knows he can. Stand your ground and B Honest with him and yourself. Also yes he might have these options but maybe he's not ready to settel down so find out where he is at too by talking to him. Hope this helps. Happy Holiday's
2006-12-18 06:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by outlawprincess5321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to bring up that mutual agreement discussion again. Things have changed, and if you don't get it out in the open, you may both be missing out on a good thing. You have to be honest, and talk to one another. He is probably feeling the same way, but is constrained by the "just friends" agreement he feels that he has to abide by.
2006-12-18 07:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this guy wants what exactly he thinks you have. Friends with benefits. He wants someone to satisfy his sexual needs without all the fuss and once you start acting like his g/f he will drop you like your hot. Trust me, I know.
If you are having feeling for this guy, confront him and see what happens, my guess is he will string you along until you get fed up.
Move on to someone who really cares about you.
If he really cared he wouldn't be treating you like a piece of a**. But then again you did agree to that in the beginning.
2006-12-18 05:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its obvious that you are both in loved. Instead of sticking to your prior agreement how about expressing you feelings to him. Have a commitment and work hard on the relationship.
2006-12-18 06:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he likes you too but there is a certain feeling/thing that hinders him to get into the next level. Maybe he prefers keeping the friendship rather than having a relationship with you again. maybe he thinks that it's better to be friends.
2006-12-18 05:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by preppy royalty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely but you got to let him know what you feel.Don't wait around to see if he guesses what you feel let him know obviously he is attracted to you and if he isn't seeing anyone else then maybe there is a chance to take it to the next level
2006-12-18 05:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not using you, you agreed together that the relationship would not go anywhere.
2006-12-18 05:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it is hard to say, but yeah it seems his using you…
2006-12-18 06:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he keeps coming back..your a sure hit.....
2006-12-18 05:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋