My boyfriend of 4 years has yet to pop the question. About 6 months ago he told me was making payments on a ring( now he tells me this only because he stopped making payments) but then decided he didn't want to get hitched. He keeps saying "When I am ready". He wouldn't talk to me about it. So is this a sign that there are other things going on or is he just not really ready. And if he is not then why was he 6 months ago and not now?
2006-12-17 21:18:13 · 8 answers · asked by Kimmy D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage scares the crap out of me. It's a big responsibilty and I take it as it was meant. Marriage is a lifelong commitment. It's a big step and it's even bigger for someone who is scared.
Yeah, I'll say it, the whole idea petrifies me.
2006-12-17 21:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by Wisdom Guru 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-12-17 21:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were the one he knew he wanted to spend the rest of his life with, you would be married by now. But then again, some men are just afraid of committment and those are the guys you need to avoid at all costs. Find someone who is willing to make a lifelong committment to you because if you don't you will be stuck with someone who may not truly be happy in a marriage and will probably leave you down the line!
2006-12-17 21:32:48 · answer #3 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be numerous reasons on this.
He could of had a fling and realized he wasn't ready.
He could of just thought why should he marry you when he already has you hook, line and sinker.
He could just have committment issues.
Either way him not talking about it is a clear sign of not respecting your feelings on this. You have to talk to him straight up on this.
Who's to say he didn't lie about that ring being on layaway just to shut you up for awhile?
If he refuses to discuss this then tell him you want to call it quits for awhile to think about your future and where it isn't going with him if he doesn't wake up then then he never will. Keep that one in mind.
2006-12-17 21:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey, either he changed his mind about marrying you or he's got another honey.
2006-12-17 21:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he is ready...? it's not just about him.....he doesn't want to talk about it....why waste your time analizing his motives or thoughts?...unless of course this is what you want....look for greener pastures...
2006-12-17 21:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He 's seeing someone else
2006-12-17 21:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by IQ lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know the reason.. But i suggest you that you talk about marriage.. just not love.. relationship.. ..U will know wat he really is.....
2006-12-17 21:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by dv_theos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋