I'm 20 years old, i go to school and currently have a temporary job bagging groceries. All my coworkers (mostly girls about my age or a little older) were asking me, Why are you so quiet, and to be honest i don't know why. I'm quiet to the point where i have no real friends (except online) right now, and i've only had a few in my life. I've never had the balls to ask a girl out, because i just... i don't know...
2006-12-17 19:46:18 · 9 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dude, you're 20 years old, you're never gonna look this good in your life again. What ever you want to do, do it now. Always remember one thing, if it doesnt work out, who the $@% cares? just take risks, say stuff, gain experience, and live it.
2006-12-17 19:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by BeRandom 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At the end of the day, being the shy guy is all about confidence. This I know first hand, it felt like I didn't have a voice. I had to FORCE myself to have conversation with anyone because I was much too scared. You need to realize the good things about yourself, *Oh, I have pretty sweet hair* so on, and so on, and build the nerve to talk to a girl. It's hard on a person being so shy, and it gets super frustrating. What's the worst thing that will happen? The girl may say no, you may go a little pink in the face, and it might sting a little bit, but you'll learn what works for you and what doesn't. You just need to take a deep breath and do it. No if's and's or but's about it. Imagine everyone in their underwear if it'll make it a little easier on ya. With time it will get better, but the first step is to start. You'll see. I don't have a shy bone in my body anymore... and I love it! Keep your head high, believe in yourself and you can do it. No sweat!
2006-12-17 19:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're just nervous? You've gotta have confidence in yourself before people have confidence in you! Get into something you enjoy doing, like a club at school. That way, you are bound to share the same interests and you'll have alot to talk about. It's a good start to just talk about what you have in common, and you'll find the conversation will progress. If you like a girl, ask her out! She may feel the same way, and what have you got to lose? even if she does turn you down, at least you won't regret not asking her, and I'm sure she'll respect you for having the confidence and you'll stay friends. Hope this has helped. Good luck! x x x
2006-12-17 20:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by ♫ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CAN'T not have real friend in your life. You should try and get them :) Don't worry, who knows your quiteness is the best side of you. Start by contacting your old time school friends -or at least the persons that might remember your name and face- and work it from there. Get together with relatives from your parents' side and widen your acquaintancy. Don't spend too much time online than you do in real life. It's kinda dangerous perceiving all sorts of unwanted "info" or images you might get online. Hang out with your coworkers and bluntly tell them that you're trying to overcome this shyness issue and thought they might be able to help out. Good luck, kay? Wish u the best.
2006-12-17 19:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Zenithia Victora 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's easiest to start talking to people when you are shy if you find some people who like the same things you do. Then you naturally have something to talk about. And you just might find a girl in that circle, too. So figure out what you like to do and start hanging out with people who like to do the same things. You don't have to be the most outgoing guy out there. My wife says some girls like a little mystery.
2006-12-17 19:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a club or a group where you HAve to interact with others,I used to be shy too.It can be a very lonely life.and people think you don't know anything.What about a sports team.music class whatever .
2006-12-17 19:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by shasha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so shy?Well its normal coz different people have different attitudes. Well you should break your quitness..just find out some topics to be chat with..and try to talk to your close friends or family at the first place.
2006-12-17 19:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by CHeah COmel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
awww what a cutie..i lovee shy people their soo easy to pick on..no im jk..try to go out with the people that share common interest with you than that will help a little...
2006-12-17 19:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by Hope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, all you gota do is calm down be your self and start converstaion.! trust me man thats all you gota do if theres some people having a conversation then just start talking whit the if not work e-mail me at:callmesensi@yahoo.com <(-_-)> *calm*
2006-12-17 19:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by b-rad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋