12 Months ago, I caught my wife with my sister. She said she would never do it again and we went for marriage councelling. Now I seem to be getting the same feeling that she is back with my sister again. The problem is we have 2 young great children and don't want to divorce as I want to see my kids ever day. Plus she does not work so how would she be able to bring in money and look after the kids
2006-12-17 19:34:13 · 18 answers · asked by Dave 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude ..... seriously, get that on tape and let me get a copy of that.
2006-12-17 19:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by DemoDicky 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What a nightmare, what does your sister have to say? You have children so no-matter what you have to have a functioning relationship with your wife for the rest of your life. But this has to be sorted out. Councelling, I know it's a cliche but it may help. You may also have to consider moving out of the area, ( away from your sister ) that will only help short term, what your have to do is understand what your wife needs for both of you to have a functioning relationship. The answer may seem obvious but I'm not convinced, find out what this is, again, councelling. Good luck, I'm really annoyed with your sister by the way.
2006-12-17 21:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by gbgnick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really that bad for you ?
There must be something missing in your relationship that is leading her to temptation with another
I would be thanking my lucky stars if I were you that it is your sister she is seeking her desires with and not some bimbo off the street or worse yet a fella ....which would really cause a major break up ..
The way I see it you have two choices either infront of you with your knowledge or NOT at all ... let her have her fun with your sister BUT no one else .. ( you do have aids and many many std's to think about here ) I'm betting she will work it out of her system and be back to the wife you loved so well .. Maybe with alittle more spice to offer your own bedroom play ...
All the Best
2006-12-17 20:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as u said that you cought her 12 months ago, she promised u not to do it again but she did! so it seems she doesnt keep promises.but since u have 2 lovely kids give her one last chance, tell her about the consequences of her actions, i mean the divorce, about the kids that they will get lost without both of u taking care of them... and see what will happen, and as well talk to ur sister too, she seems a bit nasty to get into a relation with ur wife and ruin ur marriage. if it happens again, start the divorce papers.
hope it will not happen coz it will be hard for the kids especially if they are young but let me tell u another thing and this i got it from my experience in life: in some cases (as urs) it is better for u both to get a divorce, it will be much more healthy for the kids then to stay with each in a home where there is no happiness and stability!
good luck! and be wise...coz its a life decision
2006-12-17 20:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by LiLi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow , you are only in the beginning of a long awful divorce. My ex was going with my youngest sister (under the pretense of its only friendship ) It went on for several years before I said enough and showed him the door. I held off till my children, were grown and I covered it up. A mistake!!!!!!! Keep your mouth shut get the evidence you need , then go to a lawyer. You will get the kids. Let you kids know the truth don't sugar coated. It does not have to be in detail, but enough they understand what is happening. Don't wait till they are older and you have covered for her . Then it looks like you are lying. My girls still don't want to face the facts. Don't let you life pass you by why trying to cover for your wife. This is going to split your family into, but it is better now not later. I know from experience. I waited 10 years trying to cover it up and waiting till the girls were older to understand. I wasted 10 years. Run and run now, you will have your kids, you are the better parent. Let her get a job and learn how hard life really is and what she has lost . You move on to someone who will love and respect you.
2006-12-18 01:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW thats a tuff one. I know you love your kids. I have 2 myself. However, you have to do what is in the best interest of them and you. It is not your fault that their mom doesn't work. Ask for custody until she gets on her feet. Make sure if you decide to divorce that you do it on good terms. Tell her that you will be there for the kids and take them until she gets on her feet. She needs to grow up and realize that she is not only married but she has 2 kids that she is involving. What happens if your 2 kids catch them next time? What do you tell them? I know it seems like staying together might be best but it's not. If yal fight and argue about this problem then that is what they will see. Maybe yal can get divorced but still live together until she gets a job and gets on her feet. I am sorry this is happening and wish I could be more help. If my husband ever cheated on me...I wouldn't give him a second chance. You can't say you love someone with all your heart if you can so easily cheat on them. Take care
2006-12-17 19:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by { Me } 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude. She was once looking to do the proper factor. By telling your spouse, she was once serving to you repair your lifestyles. It was once incorrect of you to toss her stuff away, althought your anger is permitted because the intent. She bit you due to the fact... good, all her garments could be long gone and that was once extraordinarily impolite and imply of you. HOW COULD YOU STUFF HER INTO A TRASH CAN?!!? Obviously you are more potent than her. She would have suffocated or some thing! Your feminine "pal"? Really? After dishonest on ur spouse, ur looking forward to her to chill down at your feminine "pal"'s residence? How tousled is that. Don't kick your sister out. No offense, however please appear on the hindrance out of your sister's factor of view. Fix. Your. Life.
2016-09-03 13:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by devita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give jerry springer, murray povich or greg behrendt a call! ASAP!!
I personally would be much more conserned with the relationship between me and my sister, and what the hell is wrong with my sister for accepting the sexual advances of my WIFE!!
2006-12-17 20:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by Matthew K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAY if I were you I would try make it work, I don't know were your from,, BUT you'll be the one bring the money, If you split up you will pay child support, i know if it were me, once it happened there would not be a 2 time, rite is rite and wrong is wrong, If your marred ,you don't have sex with any one, male of female,
Hope the best for you good luck
2006-12-17 19:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by bill_ray56 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
An idle mind is the playground of the devil. Encourage her to get a job. Continue counselling. Talk candidly to your sister about your apprehension of losing your family.
2006-12-17 19:57:03 · answer #10 · answered by Ithea Nzau 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she had a job she may not have time to cheat on you.
2006-12-18 03:00:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋