Hell, I think I skipped the whole "teenager" phase of my life, too. I never "partied", wore tight clothing, makeup, or drank. I don't know how to drive. I don't know how to talk to people without acting like a child. I don't know how to make friends.
I wasted my teenage years being depressed and hiding in my room... Now I'm 19 and I am expected to get a job, become financially independent, and fund my own education... I should be thinking about moving out on my own now, but all I can think about is what I want for Christmas. (I'm scared to ask for anything, though.) I honestly feel like I am twelve years old.
I've recently moved to a new city, and I don't know a single person here. I don't know how to meet people. I don't know how to get a job. I don't understand any of this.
How can I be expected to take care of myself, when I don't even know who "myself" is? I feel unintelligent, immature, depressed and worthless, and I don't know what to do with myself.
2006-12-17 19:09:45 · 5 answers · asked by * 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That sounds very familiar. I've felt the same way at numerous times in my life - not ready for what was expected of me. Now I often think back and reflect "I was readier than I felt, and if I'd only had more self-confidence I could have accomplished much more."
So, recognize that no matter how confident everyone else appears, most people have experienced self-doubts not unlike your own. Look for opportunities to meet people (volunteering, job seeking, doing laundry). Ask people for their advice (it's flattering!) but don't feel pressured to follow it. Ask people for their phone number. Compliment people you really admire. Reaffirm your own positive attributes. Find ways to calm yourself (meditation works, but it takes work, too).
2006-12-17 19:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by Eclectic_N 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the game of Life:
You say:
"I feel unintelligent, immature, depressed and worthless, and I don't know what to do with myself." depressed and worthless is not a good sign but normal, the rest is perfectly normal.
Growing up is learning - the best way is to do things and learn, mistakes all all. As you learn to do different things the "depressed and worthless" will go away.
Do remember that most grown ups at 20 are boring. I hope not to be grown up till I retire, maybe a little smarter as I go along but I hope not boring.
2006-12-18 03:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Carl P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by getting experience from the world.
2006-12-18 03:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by GOPAL KUMAR PATHAK 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
having good sence of humur no matter what age is!
2006-12-18 03:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are doomed to live with their parents forever.
2006-12-18 04:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by Buchyex 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋