how to save my sex life?

Question

i m married fro i yr.i get up in the morning prepare breakfast get my hubby ready for work myself go to work.when i m back in the evening i again cook dinner and atlast get too much exhausted for sex.what should i do?my in-laws r not co operative and will not let me keep a cook.i go to work only to avoid them.help pleaseeeee.

Answer 1

Tell him if he cooks tonight. He can have what he once if not your going to bed...After he cook and clean he'll be tired too....

Answer 2

In laws problems have been in existence since time immemorial. You either live seperately or get adjusted to their lifestyle, if your husband doesn't want to move out. But you should stand up for your rights. After a days hard work and then cooking etc can really sap the energy out of you. But as some people suggested here, morning sex can be a good way of starting the day. If you sleep early, you can get up early. Talk with your husband reg this. It is necessary that he should be aware of your problems and desires. Tell him about the early to bed and early to rise and sex plan. I am sure he will go with you. Once in a while, say every 2/3 months, go out for a weekend outing for some resort and spend the time together alone. It can do wonders for your relationship.

Answer 3

If you can not talk to your husband or the in-laws then use this trick. Slowly reduce the quality of the food you make. Take a month or so. More salt, more chilly and burn food once in a while. Then you will see how others will start looking to help you. Then they will start making one or two dishes by themselves. Also come home late from office. On day one come 5 mins late, next day 6 like so. Don't make it evident that you are deliberate. So this kind of passive aggression will help you. Don't just worry about the sex drive. You have it and you know it. Solve this over stressed problem first.

Answer 4

Hey no problem only a challenge. First of all before you get out of bed get you a morning pickup:) Then do your routine if you must have a breakfast keep it simple that day. Toast, fruit and coffee or whatever you like. That will replenish your energy. On a different day pickup dinner from your local grocery store and save your husband for dessert:) I have a million of them. Do what it takes but be sensible. You can't give your best if you are tired. I agree with everyone else, too about talking to your husband. He may enjoy making a spaghetti and meatball dinner if he is the ???:) LOL enjoy yourself these are the best years of your life if you make it.

Answer 5

Hi,
Don't be afraid in telling your problems to your husband. Tell him very clearly that either you will keep a cook or else let your in-laws help you in cooking, anotherwise ask him to help you.
It's not required always womens to suffer.
Its his duty also to share your pain.
Finish your cooking ,eat dinner and go to bed.Let the all the other work be pending for the next day. Keep a servent who can wash the vessels and clean your house. So that your work will be only preparing breakfast,making your hubby ready and you get ready for the office.
That's what I do.

Answer 6

1. Try to eat simple food (no chilli, masala or only oce a week).
2. Take a some rest (lye on the bed or even chair) after your luch (no matter how short even 5 minutes)
3. Take a walk after your dinner (no matter how short even 50 feet)
4. Wake up and Go to bed early
5. Dont do 2 works at the same time (watching TV and cooking, working in your office and thinking waht to cook tonight etc)

This will not end your problems, atleast it will help you release some tension, tiredness and you will feel more relaxed and fresh.

Answer 7

Get little more earlier, prepare break fast and have it yourself and go for work. Be self-sufficient. Evening do the same, prepare food and have it yourself. Don't leave the possession of the kitchen to others. Keep the Kitchen's key with you. Otherwise without the clear picture, how can I give you a solution. Problems are borne with both sides, Voice is coming out with both hands, If you don't show your hands, others can not give you a shake hand. When there is irritation, there is also appreciaton. God is with you, carry on, you would have a lucky future, especially for those who bear the burdens for long, god gives them the payment. Don't be dispairred. May god bless you.

Answer 8

y dont u talk to ur hubby about this, open communication should be the foundation of a good marital life, u said u r married for 1 year now, its not too late, start talking to him, tell him every thing, when u make love tell him about ur likes and dislikes,talk to him without any shame, coz he is ur partner for life, and this will improve ur relationship with him, show him u love him and care for him, y dont u try to wake up a little more early, and wake him, wake him by seducing him, by the time he is fully awake he should be in a state that he cant say no. try it , it always works with me , and remember talk to him , that is the best way u can have a long and loving life together.... All the best.

Answer 9

Make your hubby understand that you too are human being like any other person in the family. You have not mentioned number of rest family members. You can make them understand that they too have a role to ply i.e at least get 60-70% of the job done before ur arrival. They have to co-operate with you, dont get milked both the ways.
Be clear to your family members or tell them good buy.
Instead of night ucan have sex in early morning before living the bed, its enjoyable am shure u may love it.

Answer 10

Ask ur husband to help you in cooking or plan your cooking time. cook food for night also in morning keep it in firidge. there is not particular time for sex you can enjoy say for example early in the morning if u can. it wont give you any exhaustion but instead it will make you rejuvenating. any how pls dont keep away sex from your life. try to find a small house to live together with your husband so that you can enjoy your life

Answer 11

Dear Arpita,
i can understand ur problem .But being a man i know that sex is also important to keep ur relationship with ur hubby intact.So I advice you to talk to ur hubby openly but with tactfully and tell him about ur problem of getting tired and then not enjoying sex at bed time bkz of tiredness.I am sure he shall understand ur problem and shall help u in kitchen or shall ask someone in the family to help u in these house hold chorus.May God give u courage to come out of this problme.
Yours
rkbhartiya