how should and face his family and him, and shuold i tell him take me back or should my parents dop me there or should i go alone??
2006-12-17 17:59:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OMG...WHY IN THE HELL WOULD YOU DO THAT???
YOU LEFT HIM FOR A REASON...GO BACK AND THINK ABOUT THAT REASON.
2006-12-17 18:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you have to back up, waaay up.
The conversation should start about here...Can we discuss this really bad fight we had? Over the phone or would you like to get together over lunch....?
The discussion does not necessarily need to focus on who was right and who was wrong about the argument or its particulars, but it has got to be about: How can we discuss (and even argue about) something as reasonable adults without it getting out of hand and without destroying our marriage--if we want it to continue at all?
You may need to have a 3rd party help you through this--a marriage counselor or a couple's therapist--NO FAMILY INVOLVED!!! PERIOD.
A good counselor can teach you how to "fight fair", how to heal wounds that may have been inflicted by each spouse on the other, and simply how to be married.
Just walking back in the door to resume married life is going to do neither of you any good. It will probably just continue the fight--if it's not about the old fight, it will be about the new "problem", and something else, and then something else, and....and...and....
Nothing will be really solved. The old issues of the relationship, especially with regard to power, respect, dignity, and compromise, between you two hasn't changed one bit. Nothing will be better. Nothing will be healed. And this marriage definitely sounds like it needs a lot of healing if it is at all going to last.
Please get more help than we can give you here, even if your husband refuses to go to counseling.
Good luck.
2006-12-18 02:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by answerme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first you just make a self examination and find why you made a long fight with your husband? Is it ur fault or his. If it is ur fault u should appoligize him and if it is on the part of ur husband u can pardon him. Any way it is better to go with your parents there and have a nice open chat with your husband privately, pls dont fight with him, hear everything calmly, tell your problems and try to find where it went wrong
2006-12-18 03:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by aravindam m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I am all for reconciliation in a marriage.
But Honey, do you ever sound desperate!
Call him up, & let him know that you are interested in re-kindling the relationship, & you would accept a date from him if he wants to make an effort.
This is the chance for the both of you to discover yourselves as well as each other.
Don't blow it just because you are feeling needy.
I really hope you can save your marriage, I really do, but from what you have said so far, I am afraid you are going to lose yourself in the process.
Don't go back until you have discovered the answer to your question on your own.
2006-12-18 02:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 2 sit together and talk to each other that what the problem was and what had happened.
Sort out that problem.
Find a solution for this problem. if the problem gets solved then you go to your(your in laws) house. But if u doesnt then its not possible.
2006-12-18 02:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by Vijay Agarwal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok youre married so the house belongs to both of you. if you have a car drive yourself if not he should be happy to pick you up. Dont be so concerned about his parents and family just make sure the 2 of you are happy.
2006-12-18 02:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by space case 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go alone if you can but call him first...or ask him to meet you somewhere for a meal so you two can talk it over........you should only worry about your hubby and how he feels...if he loves you he will tell his parents to butt out....be sweet, tell him how much you missed him and how you would like to work things out. no matter what happens..show him you will not raise your voice or fight with him...you are only looking for a peaceful life with him.
Tell him you are sorry for leaving and you are back to start over..the right time this time...pray before you ever do anything...get Gods guidance.
2006-12-18 02:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
common
enjoy each other's company
and relax nothing is more than ur love and satisfaction
dont be puppet in people hand
if someone says u
u r angry . beleive just take deep breath and say s what. dont argue .Give them best and beleive u will get best.
for any more prob. contact
good luck and good wishes
bye
2006-12-18 02:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by sm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet him first outside in a neutral place and explain to him. Ask him for his suggestion how to face the parents-in-law. He will appreciate it as you are asking for his suggestion. There is no shame in accepting mistakes and correcting them. Good luck!
2006-12-21 04:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go alone and face the situation on your own. Your family isn't going to reside with you at your husband's place. So why not start straight away?
2006-12-18 02:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well,you took the decision of leaving his home 2 months back so it should be fair that you go back to him alone.Don't involve the family into this
2006-12-18 03:37:54 · answer #11 · answered by jagusan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋