Family members constantly tell me this. for the most part is true. I hate people. I don't have friends, I have no desire to make friends, and I don't think I miss having friends. I think most people are plastic and only pretend to be interested in what you are saying. I see no need to waste my precious time with people that I don't enjoy being around. It is rare that I ever click with anyone. And if I do click I remain friends for only a short time. There is always something that i end up hating about them. I'm not into social gatherings. Honestly, I dread the holidays where I find myself having to go to my spouse's family get together and sit and open presents from people that I barely speak to during the year. and some that I know hate me. If I meet you, I probably won't like you. I don't like to leave my house unless I absolutely have to. My kids and husband are my life and I have no need for outside stimulation. is this strange? My family calls me 'special' lol
2006-12-17 17:36:30 · 17 answers · asked by stop_staring_please 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I like to be around my family to a certain extent. a few days or so lol. After that mom gets on my nerves. My sister is my best friend. I love my husband and my kids.
2006-12-17 18:27:29 · update #1
Special indeed. Did do hate your spouse too, before marriage? Seek some professional help...
2006-12-17 17:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
As much as you may dislike "outside stimulation", your kids need it. One of these days, you won't be around anymore, and if your kids have no life outside of you, what will happen when suddenly you're not there anymore? Of course there's always the possibility that you allow them to go and do things with your husband and/or other trusted family members, but it's not the same. They need to have you there with them, because they're your kids - and the sun probably rises and sets on you, in their eyes. I went through this somewhat with my mother, we always had a hard time getting her to go and do anything outside of the house, and it really hurt me. I loved her and wanted her to be with me to make whatever was going on at the time seem complete. I also have to wonder if your kids are seeing the negative attitude that you are showing about other people, and I don't think that's healthy for them. Your assumption that you probably wouldn't like someone before you've even met them makes it seem as though you're looking for reasons not to. I'm not trying to pass judgment or anything, because I don't know all the details. Maybe you should seek professional help to try and figure out what the problem is. If nothing else, at least do it for your children.
2006-12-18 01:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by doodlebugg 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe you have to find it in yourself to learn to like some people. It is ultimately your decision who to like or not like. There must be more to your life than just family> I have a few good friends and that's all . I don't make friends fast myself but I think you might have a problem in social situations. You use words like "Dread" and "Having to do this" and you find it hard to maintain a friendship for a long period of time. There has to be a reason why. I am sure you have a lot to offer people. You say you dont like to even leave your house unless you have to? Look at what your saying to yourself. I think you might have a phobia in social situations. It happens.
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2006-12-18 01:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by bennythebird 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Hi, I can understand u in world we come across many ppl some we like some we not . if u can't love someone u have no rite 2 hate. Life is 2 small ppl don't have time 2 love and u r hating .
i think u should change ur attitude u look like very homely but social life is a must and making friends is a real important part
i know u mus have started hating me ................but i can help u out
best wishes for future and smile forever
2006-12-18 01:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by indian beauty 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not strange i feel the same way at times.. I hate people sometimes because i feel that they all phony and that they don't really like me for real. Also i hate women more then i hate men. But it's a low self-esteem that you may have that cause you to hate everyone because maybe you're afraid that when out in society, you're not good enough for them, maybe you feel fat, depress, ugly or whatever the case may be. As for me it was a self-esteem problem and i've worked on that but i'm working more at my self-esteem. Just know that you're better then anyone and maybe that will help. quit thinking about what others will think of you
2006-12-18 03:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are not alone, I dislike many people too!
I do have friends though, but my circle is very, very small. I do not find it necessary to have a ton of so called friends, problems develop when there are too many people in your life. The ones that I do manage to get along with, we remain friends for a long time, but one has to be really, really special for a long lasting relationship/friendship with me.
I too can be very anti-social, only because I find most people to be fake and superficial. Family is worse for me, I can't stand most of them either and they probably don't like me either, but I really do not care.
Thank goodness that I feel secure about myself, otherwise I would be a total wreck. I think my husband and children like me, but even if they didn't I probably would not give a hoot!!!!!
HA!
2006-12-18 01:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Staci C 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh,i hate people too.Not all of them,but most of them.They are so dishonest and shallow.They smile on our face and gossip behind your back.You are a little bit more extrim than i am.And yes it is strange.Once in a while it is good too see relatives and close family members.I was wondering if you get along with your family?Kids and husband.?It will be helpful to get a professional point of view.Obviously it is starting to bother you.
2006-12-18 02:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by avavu 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is hilarious! Before my husband and I met, his sisters were always trying to fix him up with women he couldn't stand. Women that just wanted some guy to work hard, and make a lot of money, so they could spend it. He overheard one of his sisters telling one of her friends that he was "special". He asked me if that was the code word for retarded.
Anyway, he and I are very anti-social, and happy with each others' company. You are right, most people are VERY unpleasant to be around. It's not you that is strange.
2006-12-18 01:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by It's Complicated 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I hate people, too. Sometimes, I like animals a lot more than people. Nothing wrong with this. It's not weird at all. Most people don't have a lot of friends, either. You have your husband and your kids, those are your friends.
2006-12-18 03:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by August lmagination 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It is a little abnormal. I haven't known anyone like that. I wonder if you have underlying issues that you might need to work out. Counseling might be a painless possibility that might enrich your life. Going to counseling certainly doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, it just helps define your life.
2006-12-18 01:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i'd say it's not completely wrong to hate people, but its not really fair to hate everyone for no reason. do you hate people for reasons like they hurt you or lied to you, or for reasons like annoying habits? yes some people are plastic but not everyone.
its not strange to not want to go out and make friends, but you should have at least one good one to have your back. i'd go insane without my friends. (and with them too lol)
2006-12-18 01:47:20 · answer #11 · answered by dreamer_girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋