Sorry don't mean to offend anyone, but my oldest friend told me that she was converting to Mormonism?

Question

she told me not to worry because it was not going to affect the way she felt about me being gay. I don't know what to think I care about her, and we have always been there for each other but I don't know if I can continue being friends with someone who chooses to be part of a group that excommunicates gays. What should I do. I feel like I am not being a good friend

Answer 1

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (commonly known as Mormons) is not tolerant of gay people. Your friend may have told you that it would not affect the way she felt about you being gay, but your friend will either have to make a choice between her religion or her friendship with you as they are not compatible. You should support your friend in ways besides her decision to convert to this particular religion, but let her know that if she ever feels the need to not support you as a gay person that you would no longer be comfortable remaining her friend.

Answer 2

Be humble. Tell her that you are too humble to accept her faith and it is not for you to decide. At least work something on her. You can always give her some space because that recruitment thing happens with most fanatics ( prostheletizers, et al.) Also consider whether you want her as a friend. Seen from a third party perspective, her behavior is immature and self-centered. She is not respecting your intellectual capacity or belief system. If you want her as a friend then she needs to work it out not you. If it were me I would ask her if your friendship was important and if she said it was then explain that you respect her and think everybody should be entitled to their own belief system. You have not made up your mind what to believe, but you do not like being pressured into anything and would rather spend time enjoying her company than worrying about being preached at or judged.

Answer 3

Skip the group and as long as your friend isnt going to excommunicate you nothing has changed.
Look on the bright side...
The Mormons inspire a good healthy diet and orientate their social order around family values, so your friend not only gets to live longer, and find security in a family structured community, but she might even be really happy.
But she can always walk away,
and a friend will always be there

Answer 4

It's harder for me to understand why she would convert to a group that is against something she believes in. If you are going to convert you should go into something whole heartedly not pick and choose what you like about it.

If she still continues to be the same person and doesn't act any different than treat her as you always did. She didn't act any different when she found out you were gay right?

Answer 5

You'll be right mate ! I lived with a family of Mormon's and the head of the church (a bishop), I had not worries about them what so ever I reckon they live life setting examples (all good) and me coming from AustraIia I drink smoke I slept out over night with girls I met but it all had to be done outside (**** it was cold) but had to ask what they thought of same sex relationships...... well they didn't like it but the blokes I met wouldn't give a rats **** if ya were or not ..... so I guess ya girly friend has a right to go with what she believes as you or I do, If she is a good mate and your a nice bloke I reckon go to church and light a candle for ya's both.
I sorta know how ya feel cause my mrs's has more gay blokes as friends then girls But I reckon ya let her do what she wants or ya better change ya ways and marry the girl ???? jk

Just remind her she'll be dishing out 10% of her income..... dont worry be happy
Keep ya chin up and ava g1 !

Answer 6

I am so sorry to hear that your friend has chosen a religion that is as such.... I am a gay male and Jewish, I am a part of the reform Jewish movement that accepts gays and lesbians. I do NOT chose my friends based on my personal beliefs, yet the mormons and Jehovahs Witness faiths will disallow your friend to associate with you. That is her loss, you seem like a cool person.

Answer 7

What just_ine_ said.

Sooner or later it will become an issue - she has been attracted to Mormonism for a variety of reasons, and she should choose her own way; however, if that is going to lead to problems in the future (especially as she is more and more influenced by the Mormons she will worship and socialise with), it is definitely best to discuss things NOW.

All religious people have to find small accommodations in their faith if they are to mix with people outside that faith.

Talk it through. Good luck

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Answer 8

I have lots of friends of various faiths. Many of them chose to have gay friends over the protestations of their sects. I think it's hypocritical but I stick with them because of other common interests.


Chris is that picture 20 years old?

Answer 9

Does anyone you know practice everything their religion says?
I know Catholics who use birth control, Christan's who cheat, Muslims who don't give every non-believer the choice between death or conversion (what is required by the Qur'an), and Mormons that practice polygamy. (strictly against their 'rule' of following the laws of your land)

We find a set of beliefs that most closely match our own, then pitch the ones we don't agree with.

Answer 10

As a good friend, you have to let your friend find her own path. You have to learn to let go. Let her explore this new path for herself. If that means that eventually you might loose this friend as part of your life, you must still let her be herself.

BUT...as a friend, you have to let her know how you feel and what your fears are for her. It's only fair that she know now insted of it becoming a bad issue for both of you down the road.