Crazy situation.......?

Question

I love my husband like no other but sometimes he gets on my nerves and I don't know why. Like today, he got mad because I forgot to get more laudry soap before he got home from work yet I had cleaned, cooked and made sure our children hadn't killed each other. So I got upset. I hate being mad at him but sometimes he gets on my last nerves. He also pissed me off when he said that it made no sense for me to work a full-time and part-time job even though our finances warrant my decision. I think maybe I'm having a female moment...what do you think?

Answer 1

Sounds like he's a lucky man and you've got your plate full. However, in your spare time ha!ha!ha! pick up a copy of Gary Chapman's "The Five Love Languages" and read it with your husband. Get the male version. Maybe you two can refill your "love tanks" and rekindle some things that may be tossed aside because of the press of "the day's business." Tactfully, tell him to chill, light some candles, pour a glass of wine and just hum!

Answer 2

Sometimes couples fight. It is just a fact of life that you won't ever get around. My openion is that all a relationship means is how you deal with your problems. If you guys can work them out then it will just make you even stronger in the long run. Everyone has some things that annoys them about the love of their lives and sometimes you don't realize that those things even exist until you are either married or have lived together for awhile. I think it probably is just a woman thing from the sound of it because if your worst arguments is about laundry soap then you are a long way from splitting up or having serious troubles in your relationship. It is all probably just triggered by stress and hormones and I would try not to let the small things get to you because sometimes it is for the better just to let those things go to avoid confrontation. You will get along with him alot better if you do this.

Answer 3

You are understandably stressed. Just remember so is he. People handle stress in different ways. I am pretty sure he wasn't really mad about the soap that was just what he had to lash out at. It sounds like he is uncomfortable that he can't provide what your family needs by himself and that causes him more stress. Talk to him about the finances and what other options there are to you working 2 jobs. He may just need to take a hard look to see that it is the best thing at the time. When he gets on your last nerve, take a deep breath and focus on why you married him in the first place. It will help!

Answer 4

awe as long as he is good to you then you shouldnt sweat the small things. If his comments over small stuff really get to you then after the kids go to bed one night let him know. Its hard when u live with someone to get along all the time. Everyone in a marriage is gonna get on each others nerves at some point no matter who they are. JUst rely on good communication thats a must. Sounds like u are just having a moment or maybe just extra stressed.

Answer 5

You shouldnt let small things like that get to you. I mean, its not the end of the world because you forgot some soap. Just be the mature one between the both of you. Some people get really mad and start big things over these trifles you are talking about. Dont worry about it, just think smart. It happens to everyone.

Answer 6

I do not think you are having a female moment. If you work two jobs and take care of the house and kids why didn't your husband go get the soap?

Answer 7

Whoa. Do you both have to work sooo hard?

I teach middle school, run a vocational school in the evening, and am working on my MBA on the weekends. Yet, I still make sure to spend time with my wife and son on the weekends.

I don't think it is a good idea for BOTH of us to carry that load. I do the work thing, she does the EQUALLY challenging child rearing gig. Our goal is to have me become an assistant principal in 2 years and then I'd have only one gig.

Then - after our son gets into kinder, she can decide whether or not to go back to school. Either way, you both have to be on the same team.. . YOUR OWN!

Answer 8

Sounds to me that your husband is expressing anger at you for some other issue and he is just snapping at these silly issues of laundry detergent etc. Sounds to me like it's time to call a meeting and address the situation. The question to be put on the table, "what is really going on". Again...as I often here as a problem in relationships . . . lack of knowledge of clear communication. Not having clear, valuing communication in a relationship is like not tending to a car when a odd sound is heard. People seem to pay more attention to the exercise of their body and tending to their cars than the attention of communication throughout a relationship. They seem to think that " Oh, we're married now...we don't have to work at relating responsibility any more". Foolish people.

Answer 9

You should kick the sh*it out of him. Tell him that you can't quit your job because he doesn't make enough money. Really grind him down. Tell him that his father would have never treated his mother this way. You know. Stuff like that. Really get into his ribs. It will make you feel better. You should keep nagging him about getting a better paying job too. Tell him he is a loser for not making enough money for you to stay home and take care of the kids and stuff like getting laundry soap.

Answer 10

Everyone gets upset once in a while. Don't worry, it's natural for couples to fight, it could be a female moment, but its probably just that you both have other issues on your minds and sometimes you take your frustration out on each other. Don't worry a fight or argument every once in a while is fine and completely normal.