How do you go from ripping someone's heart out?Destroying eveything that person loved and believed in about you.To standing there declaring your love to that person.It just seems so fake like it is all nothing more then a lie.Because if you really loved that person.Why would you choose to betray that person in the first pace?I just do not see.How the marriage can survive the impact of the affair?How one gets over it?In order to make the marriage work.
2006-12-17 16:44:13 · 15 answers · asked by noga 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO. The marriage cannot work. Get a divorce. If you forgive him, he is just going to do it again because you forgave him.
You should also seriously take a look at yourself. He would not have cheated on you if he was happy with you. Obviously, there is something wrong with you. You should find out what it is, and then fix yourself so that you don't make the same mistakes again in another relationship. It's called learning.
2006-12-17 16:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My mental status once something like that happened would eventually cause a break up. I have a hard time forgetting the small stuff. I the mistrust issue would drive me to lengths. I would be suspicious all the time. Asking questions: who was on the phone? why did it take an hour to get home from work? what were you doing outside? why so long in the bathroom? lol it would be bad. So, I guess it just depends on your compacity to forgive or at least forget. For me it would not be mentally possible. for some it is. I want all of my husband all of the time. I refuse to share. I want him all mind body and spirit. If he gives even his mind or spirit to someone else, i'm so jealous
2006-12-17 16:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by reowrrrr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"no longer some thing new there he has carried out this earlier." i rather imagine that you owe it to the youngsters to work out a real qualified counsellor once feasible to exercising recurring no matter if you'll stay mutually lengthy-time period. Neither you nor your husband are in all likelihood to modify your behaviours (him going out for mysterious liaisons; you being damage and jealous) till you get some new insights into why you each and every do the belongings you do. An exterior professional can help you get those new insights. i'm somewhat not undemanding line in this one: it truly is all about the youngsters' perfect pastimes. I in actual truth believe that that is larger for little ones to be presented up with 2 mothers and fathers. Being a unmarried figure isn't some thing yet not undemanding labour and funds concerns, yet living in a conflict zone is even worse for both the adults and the youngsters. Many couples actual stay apparently contentedly married till their youngsters go away abode and then chop up up because they have in truth merely been cohabiting like room-friends and coparenting the youngsters. this can be ok if you're the style of individual who can sacrifice your own desires for those of your little ones with out resenting it. different human beings believe its more beneficial contained in the longer time period to have a civilised divorce once feasible and flow on to a sparkling portion of lifestyles, with both mothers and fathers nevertheless being lively of their youngsters' lives. sturdy success.
2016-11-27 01:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the main issue would be to deal with why someone would cheat. Many marriages survive an affair. I think it would take both parties being very willing to look at the relationship honestly and start building trust again. Not sure how one "gets over it" time, counseling, faith... Not sure if that answers your question, good luck.
2006-12-17 16:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by luvmy3gals 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The marriage can survive, but Trust is the issue. Personally, if my wife cheated on me she would be on the street the next minute, but I know that decision is harder for others to make. I you feel you can never trust him again, it is over. You'll be second guessing every statement he makes and make life miserable for both of you until eventually you hate each other and then file for divorce anyway.
2006-12-17 16:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by bigbro3006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to say I feel for you. It will be a long time before you can fully trust him again, I believe that it could work, but you have to ask yourself.... if he really loves you, he wouldn't have cheated on you in the first place. The guy above me is wrong for saying that, it has nothing to do with you. It is him. you did nothing to deserve that.
2006-12-17 17:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by nothing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess some people can do it but I never could. That doubt would always be there. It may ease in time but ALWAYS that little/big doubt would pop up.
I agree 110% that if they loved you in the first place, they would not even consider doing anything to hurt you or your relationship.
Good luck.......I know what I would do and I did....kick his butt to the sidewalk and don't look back.
2006-12-18 02:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you break the arm of a teacup, and you superglue it back together, the teacup is never the same again. The same holds true of a marriage affected by infidelity. The marriage is irrevocably damaged.
2006-12-17 18:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by jewusarmy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
welp i know exactly what your talkin about i was married for almost two years when me an my 5 mounth old daughter came home from visiting my mom and found my wife in bed with my ex-best friend three weeks later she was saying she was sorry and that she loved me but if u cant trust the one your with it will never work out
2006-12-17 16:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask your self can you make it on your own? If you have kids or pets who gets them The house do you want it ?
And do you still love him.?
And why did he find more fun in another woman bed?
2006-12-17 16:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by david o 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋