Arguing with husband....?

Question

We have been married for almost 3 years, 4 yrs together in total. We are two strong characters too alike. I love him, I chose him to marry and now I'm about to give birth to our first son. We can not stop arguing, we've had seek counseling in th epast doesnt seem to help , i know he loves me as well.. Despite our arguments but this could run out one day....How can I get a different approach to this situation, in other words how to avoid stupid arguments for the sake of our child?? How can I control my temper?...and Ignore his?

Answer 1

Has it been like this for a long time? The reason I ask is because you say that your pregnant now. A lot of hormones in your body that add to the enormous emotional stress of having a child. Unpredictable mood swings can reek havoc on any relationship. If you both know that then maybe you can talk more clearly to each other, slowly.

Answer 2

Disagreements are sometimes healthy in a relationship as long as they don't get violent and are done in a constructive manner. My husband and I are the same way. We argue daily BUT we have ground rules that we follow (most of the time anyway).

1. Never rehash an old argument. What was said and what happened in that discussion stays with that discussion.

2. Don't hold grudges.

3. Personal attacks are not permitted. (they will happen but keep them to a minimum).

4. Never go to bed mad. Finish the argument and make up.

5. Try very hard not to get mean in front of your child. If he sees you fight let him see you make up and apologize so he understands that the disagreement is over.

As far as how can you control your temper, only you can learn to do that. If you just can't there are meds that can help but use that as a last resort. Once you learn to control your temper, it is likely that your husband will get better at controlling his.

Good luck!! BTW we are soon to celebrate our 17th anniversary and have raised 3 very beautiful emotionally healthy daughters.

Answer 3

just remember that right now your hormones are the ones talking, being pregnant is a blessing that comes along with a lot of changes, and one of them is your temper. Try to relax and like my mother says... if he is fire you be the water, meaning that if he starts arguing try to let him talk and let him calm down, try not to keep arguing the same thing over and over and over again, (like we women usually do) you see....that if he sees that you don't react back at his bad mood he eventually calm down and everything will be back to normal. Good Luck!

Answer 4

You can control your temper if you have discipline to your self.
if your husband got angry don't get angry too because there's nothing to be done if both of your are angry.if hes angry give way let his temper calm down before you give your side because if hes angry he cant realize his wrong. I'm not saying your always right, i just want you to understand that if both of you are angry you cant realize both your mistake some one should give way. then if your calm down talk and you understand each other.let the anger past don't race with his anger.

Answer 5

You have to talk to him and explain yourself very clearly. Make sure he knows how you feel, and tell him the areas you need to work on. If he loves you as much as he says he'll listen and work at the wrongs to make them right. You can work through this and being pregnant and fighting isn't good..

Answer 6

walk away, come back until you have cool down and he will also be cool down and all thing will be back to normal. it happen to us too, it aways does. we pregnant women want all things to go our way and fast or else..we get all crazy on our men. good luck.

Answer 7

Try counseling again, even if you have to go somewhere else.

Answer 8

just be with him
don't try to prolong the discussion
think whether it is useful or not.
be cool
divert ur ideas.

Answer 9

Before you open your mouth, remember why you love him.

Answer 10

learn to use humor. My husband and I can use humor to difuse many fights.