2006-12-17 16:11:46 · 12 answers · asked by Ms. Q 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This situation is not about me, however the result happened after you have been married for 4 years and this was a case of adultery
2006-12-17 17:26:45 · update #1
simple-accept OR detach-i had to do it-not easy but you well its all about forgiveness & baby THAT aint EASY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-17 16:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by barely40lookingatmy80s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a very hard question to answer , without all the facts . Was the child born before you married your spouse ? If so, and he didn't tell you about the child, I guess you could sit down and discuss the situation. If you just found out that he has cheated on you and has another child, I personally would think about my own children that I have with him, Did he tell you on his own , or did you find out from another source ? If its the later , then he is just a liar and a cheat .. So many men these days are doing just that, running around like dogs, not caring who they hurt.. If you are being hurt over this new situation, evaluate you own,, would you be better of without him. He would move on and there you would be.. Or would you prefer to work this out and save your marrage, if so he will have to regain your trust , and that is a hard thing to do .. But it will take both of you to do this .. It takes a lot of honesty and talking and of course love to make a real marriage work.. and we must not forget " forgiveness " .. Good Luck to you I wish you had explained in greater detail .. Merry Christmas to you , and God Bless You
2006-12-18 00:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me. The child was 15 when we found out. Feel free to email.
2006-12-18 00:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on if he conceived this child before our relationship started. If so, then I would make sure he fulfilled his fatherly duties. If this child was a result of adultery, I would leave his cheaten *** and not care less what he did.
2006-12-18 00:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I found out my husband had a child outside of our marriage I would become a widow!
2006-12-18 00:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this child was conceived while he was married to me, i would leave him because there is no trust and god knows how many more kids he has acroos town. If it wasnt while married to me i would make sure he took care of his responsibilities and also welcome the child into my life.
2006-12-18 00:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he did not tell me about the child, I would leave. A marriage is based on honesty. It is not the child's fault, but not your either. cant live with soneone who denies a child
2006-12-18 00:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by -------- 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my spouse had this child while we were married.....we wouldn't stay married.
Where the child lived would make no difference.
2006-12-18 00:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was the child conceived before your marriage?
2006-12-18 00:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he take care of his child and sees it_
2006-12-18 00:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋