I am pregnet,but i am only sixteen.How do i come out to my parents.?

Question

I am phillopino and this has happened before it was my sister she got kicked out of my home and got beat up by my daddy.I am afraid that will happen 2 me.I am pretty sure that i am preg. because i haven't had my peroid in 10 weeks.I told my bf and he wants 2 keep the baby and dosen't want to get an aboure. but i'm not sure if i want to keep it.What should i do?

Answer 1

....don't give your baby up for an adoption because you will never forgive yourself for doing that. Knowning you had a baby and you gave it up....what will happen in the future when they try to find you. It's a terrible feeling for the child trust me, I should know I was adopted. Please.....please don't get an abortion, I wish I could show you a video on abortion....it would make you want to cry, I can promise you that.
About the telling the mom, I haven't even told my mom yet either, and my mom is like that too, I know she will kick me out the d*** house once she finds out. So I'm not going to tell her till I'm 2 months pregnant, but tell someone, I told my older sister she's 30, and my bf, they said that they would take care of me, they will take me up to the hospital. :)
Tell your sister.

***if you don't want your baby, give it to your bf, don't give it to a complete stranger, I wish my mom would have done that***

but first take a Pregnancy Test

Answer 2

I'm not going to preach to you about not having sex or anything like that.

Some poeple have said you wouldn't be a good mother, whatever, I'm sure you could be a good mother.

However, if your father acted the why he did with your sister then I suspect he will do the same with you. Can you go to your mother?

I would seriously like of an abortion. It's your decision of course but you have to do what you have to do and alienating your parents at this stage of your life would be very bad for you.

First I would make sure you are pregant with a test.

Your bf might want the baby now but will he still be there in 6 or 7 months? Will he marry you? Can he support you? It's good to get him involved in the decision but he does get to decide.

Whatever you decide, I wish you well. But you need to make a decision sooner rather than later.

Answer 3

If at all possible, tell another adult and take that adult with you if and when you tell your parents so that your father will not be able to beat you up. Make arrangements with the other adult to go with them if your father is being violent with you. I would take someone in uniform (police, counselor, etc...) someone who is trained to handle situations like yours. You could call and tell them by phone and then wait however long it took your dad to get over your sisters situation at another relatives house. Abortion shouldn't even be considered. If you didn't want a child then you should not have had sex. There is, possibly a little life growing inside of you, how can you think of killing that. Just don't try to handle it on your own, violent people should never be taken lightly, even if it is your dad.

Answer 4

my best friend in high school had a baby when she was 16 2 mo before she turned 17. she did fine she was not ready for the baby at all but when summer was born she did just fine. and it can be done alone when summer was 13 mo her father who my friend married after conceiving committed suicide for unknown reasons. now summer is almost 3 and doing exceptionally well and is expecting a lil brother in april. good luck dont give up.please dont tell your parents alone if your father is abusive my very good friend did that when she was 17 and her mother beat her so bad the baby died.learn frm mistakes you gotta grow up. if you choose adoption get an open adoption then you can know the baby and see pics it might make it easier

Answer 5

U did make a mistake, but you have a chance 2 make the situation better. Go 2 a local place 4 pregnant teens and get help. When feel that u are safe and protected tell ur parents and don't stall or take 5 minutes to get to the point. Tell them over the phone. By the way ur father should be in jail. At least u have a supportive bf.
p.s. tell them before ur belly get big

Answer 6

You definitely should stay in school, your spelling is atrocious. You obviously are not ready to "leave the nest".
Give the baby up for adoption and consider this a life-experience.
Keeping it will be bad for you, the baby, and everyone who loves you.
Sixteen year olds do stupid things as they try to grow up. Don't do another stupid thing and try to keep the baby.
Your parents will get mad, but they should support you if you give it up.
I gave up a baby and it is doing well in the adopted family. I am doing well. I learned a good lesson.
Bottom line: The baby is happier where it is now.

Answer 7

Why are you having unprotected sex? You should know what would happen. But before you tell youre parents go to a dr or the local health and get a pregancey test and make sure. Then if you are afraid of youre father try talking to youre mother first. Then maybe she can talk to him before you do. But if I were you I would keep my baby I know that it will be hard but what goes around comes around.

Answer 8

First of all.. take a test to be sure. Once you are sure.. it is important to be honest.. but also important to be safe. If your father has a history of violence, you need to be safe. Do not tell them alone, do not give him the chance to hurt you. That is NOT ok. In the end, it is your decision whether or not to keep the baby... but If you need extra help with the situation, consult planned parenthood for a free pregnancy test and some counceling. They will help you with medical needs as a pregnant woman as well. The police can assist you by accompanying you to your parents home if you feel unsafe, they will keep a civil meeting.. so you can explain to your parents what your decision is, and they will keep your father from hurting you. It is NOT ok for him to touch you, especially if you are pregnant.

Answer 9

Before assuming anything and telling your parents before you know for sure go and take a pregnancy test. I didn't have my period for 3 months..I thought i was pregnant too but it was stress from moving states away and all of that...( i didn't even think i was stressed to begin with!!) anyway take the test, be sure, and be truthful, tell your parents..It's a very scary thing to do especially if their answer to ur sister was kicking her out. talk to your parents together bring someone with you if you think something bad might happen...Also, I think if you straight up say to them I have something really important i want to tell you and i would really like it if before you guys say anything just hear me out...I made a really big mistake and I need your guy's help more than ever, i'm scared. then go on telling them that your pregnant (if your test comes back positive) and tell them that you would like to go on with the pregnancy...(if the case is that you cannot afford your baby your give it the best life possible adoption is always the best answer) but since i'm too young and did make this choice and this came of it i'm going to give the baby up for adoption...also tell them that i'm really sorry for hurting you. (most parents do feel that they're kids having sex before being married or even at such a young age really does hurt them). If worst case scenario they end up kicking you out don't listen to you at all. Like that one gal said go to planned parent hood and get they're help...They're are places that take in pregnant women that have no place to go...I wish i knew what they were called..but i'm sure if you asked the planned parent hood they would know...i hope everything ends up for the best! stay strong. and as hard as it is..don't stress..You'll be ok..It's a hard road but you can do it! and hopefully this helps you out a little. take care

Answer 10

I feel bad for your sister. But if you arent ready to accept the concequences, you souldnt be having sex in the first place. However, if you believe with all your heart that you cant take care of the baby, and provide for it physically and mentally, you should give it up for adoption or to the boyfriends and his family. As for telling your parents, you just need to be straight with them. It's always worse to hide it, trust me, been there done that!! But after i told them, I felt a heavy burden was lifted off my shoulders.!!