can i ask opinions without stupid people being rude and mean i'll refrase my question for those misunderstood

Question

my son is mentally ill has mentality of a 15 yr old even tho he's 19.he doesnt make wise choices and hes a pathlogical lier.he lies claims 2 be rich and owner of house,attracts bottom feeders/girls looking for hand out place live money etc...so i involve myself to help guide and teach him.he started dating¤tly seeing a 16yr old girl who's really troubled unwanted and wild loves trouble totally disregarding.i recently found out she stold a car from her sleeping cousin last night her last resort place to live/last chance she's to wild been kicked out by own mother and other places.i over heard she said she's gona steal the car again tonight to come over here. i dont want any trouble by her being here in my driveway with a stolen car but if i call tell her cousin it will cause drama and problems maybe even threats because she's rough claims be a gansta wants fight everyone.how should i handle this situation.yes hes 19 but im the oldest adult here any trouble on me contrib2 minor

Answer 1

Call the cops on the girl who is stealing the car, to begin with.

Secondly, if your son is mentally ill, have him declared incompetent and get legal custody. When that's done you can keep him from seeing these girls, but is it really worth it. Also, I would keep in mind that it's YOUR home that he's bringing underaged girls into. You DO have control over that. Kick them out.... it only requires a little backbone.

Answer 2

Regarding your son, if there is medical documentation that he is functioning at a 15 year old level, it is up to you to make guardian decisions. Here's some points I'd like to make...

1. He is 19. She is a minor. Eventhough it may seem unclear about his mentality, legally he is an adult. This means statutory rape. Err on the side of caution and insist he end the relationship, unless he wants to go to jail.

2. She stole a car. Grand Theft Auto. She's a minor, and will not be tried as an adult, but the police need to get involved, drama or not. You would be contributing. My suggestion...make an anonymus phone call to the cops on a payphone. Also, if you are threatened, tell them that as well. You do not need to call her cousin at all.

3. Because he is of legal age, you do have the option of looking into a group home for him. Is he in counseling or on medication of any kind? If so, talk to his doctors about suggestions they may have. If not, then you might want to talk to the local human services department, explain the situation, and see what your options are.

Just remember, as his parent, it is your responsibility to raise him as well as you can. At his age, he is legally an adult, but may need some help adjusting to society as an adult. Use the resources available to help him (and YOU) adapt to life outside his mother's house.
Good luck to you and Blessings...

Answer 3

I have no idea if that's anymore impolite than calling the flawed quantity, understanding it after the individual has spoke back and simply striking up with out announcing a phrase. All folks have performed that I'm certain on no less than one or 2 circumstances. When a individual says "Who is that this?" in what most of the time feels like an abrupt tone it's most probably the individual realizes they have made a mistake and feels just a little embarrassed. Think of it as a knee jerk response, similar to the individual who instantly hangs up after they observe they have dialed the flawed quantity and the opposite individual has already spoke back. Rather than get confused out over it and all protective simply recollect that you're continually within the driving force's seat whilst any one is asking in. Regardless of what the individual asks you simply quite simply say, "Who's calling please?" You're below no duty to spot your self. If the individual does not establish themselves simply dangle up and get on together with your day. Edit: Understood Fabulous. I'm looking to provide you an reason behind what the individual mentioned so it does not solicit a "how dare you....." response from you subsequent time. I'm announcing that at the same time the onus is at the individual calling in to spot themselves instead than traumatic that you simply establish your self first there may be many times a proof. Is an blameless mistake being "impolite"? I bet that's as much as you to come to a decision. If I react by means of instantly considering, "How dare you....." then I bet I believe the individual is being impolite. If I observe that the individual made a pretend pas and is embarrassed and simply blurted out "who is that this?" I would possibly not believe it impolite up to quite simply making an sincere mistake. Saying, "Who is that this" appears to be a ordinary response whilst getting a few unusual voice at the different finish one used to be now not anticipating to listen to. I would not name it being impolite. Rude could be whilst the individual maintains to call for that you simply establish your self.

Answer 4

1. Do a spelling check with your questions, it will help us understand your meaning better.
2. Call the police and tell them to expect a stolen car in your driveway.
3. Why doesn't the owner of the car help you?
4. Tell the cops what you told us here.
5. Honesty is the best policy, if you don't follow through, it will only get worse.
6. Stick by your will to do right, he needs to be taught a lesson.

Answer 5

If this is true, and he has the mentality of a 15 year old, you need to be strong & take charge of his life. He needs guidance. He needs to learn things. You need to be the one to teach him. I understand that he is legally an adult, but inside he is a child. Seek professional intervention if necessary. He needs to be taught how to make good decisions & some parts of that may need help beyond what you can give him.
If that girl comes to your house, shut the door. It's that simple. It's YOUR house. If she gets ignorant or beligerent, call the cops.

Answer 6

It would be nice if you could talk to her before hand. Be nice . Tell her that you have concerns for your son, and that you would rather not her showing up in a stolen car. Be firm about this but not rude. If she can't deal with that let her deal with the police. There are laws tat can keep her off your property and away from your son. Keep me informed. Arion

Answer 7

Having the mental capacity of a 15 year old is not all that extreme. Plenty of people with much worse problems than that live on their own, with their own jobs, and only minimal observation. His problem with lying is more than likely not an effect of his mental problem, but with his upbringing. I'm not trying to be mean, we all take it easy on those less fortunate...unfortunately we commonly end up hurting them more than if we had disciplined them at the time. I speak from experience.

You cannot be afraid to take charge of the situation, as it is incriminating to you, and you cannot be afraid of how it affects your son, because he is your responsibility, not your charge.

If you don't take care of it now, it will only grow worse.

Answer 8

This is tough. Perhaps it's time to call the police along with the cousin.
It will only get worse if you ignore the situation.
Face it head on.
Best luck.

Answer 9

call the cops and report her and her parents its illegal for them to kick her out shes a minor and their responsibility. if she shows up with a car to protect yourself have her arrested its what she needs anyway

Answer 10

perhaps you could somehow tip-off the police before she arrives at your house. im sorry i don't have any other answers tis a hard one.