Ok so I was friends with this guy for over a year, and we were best friends. Then we got into a ton of fights and are no longer friends, and both of us were okay with that. Suddenly the day we got out for christmas break he gave me a card, nothing big really it just said happy holidays. I thought we were enemies, so getting that from him was REALLY confusing. I asked him about it, and he pointed out a historical event our teacher told us about. During WWI two opposing sides stoped fighting on christmas day and had dinner together, the following day they went back to fighting just as they had done before. This was his peace offering for one day, so I pointed out that after the two sides had dinner one day, they went back to fighting just as they had before. His response was "mm...that's correct". So basically he was messing with me by giving me the card. I've tried really hard not to act like a bit** towards him, but I can't believe he would do that. Why is he such a jerk?
2006-12-17 16:01:55 · 12 answers · asked by Love_Forever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I give up on guys. All of your answers hint that we like eachother, but I would go as far as betting my life on it that he has no physical or emotional attraction to me. Honestly I did used to like him, and he knew about it, but never mentioned anything, so what reason do I have for assuming that he likes me?
2006-12-17 16:23:23 · update #1
I don't think anyone here is understanding my theory that HE DOES NOT LIKE ME. Sorry, but it's the last thing I want to hear.
2006-12-18 14:47:47 · update #2
I don't think anyone here is understanding my theory that HE DOES NOT LIKE ME. Sorry, but it's the last thing I want to hear.
2006-12-18 14:47:48 · update #3
You are telling the whole world that you do not matter. Why think about him so much. If he wants things to happen between you HE WILL TELL YOU!
Here is a similar story...
Her Side/His Side
HER SIDE OF THE STORY
He was in an odd mood when I got to the bar, I thought it might have been my fault because I was a bit late but he didn't say anything much about it.
The conversation was quite slow going so I thought we should go off somewhere more intimate so we could talk more privately. We went to this restaurant and he was STILL acting a bit funny. I tried to cheer him up and started to wonder whether it was me or something else. I asked him, and he said no. But I wasn't really sure.
So anyway, in the cab on the way back to his house, I said that I love him and he just put his arm around me. I didn't know what the hell that meant because you know he doesn't say it back or anything. We finally got back to his place and I was wondering if he was going to dump me! So I tried to ask him about it but he just switched on the TV. Reluctantly, I said I was going to go to sleep. Then after about 10 minutes, he joined me and we had sex.
But, he still seemed really distracted, so afterwards I just wanted to leave but I just cried myself to sleep. I dunno, I just don't know what he thinks anymore. I mean, do you think he's met someone else???
HIS SIDE OF THE STORY
My team lost. Felt Kinda Tired. Got laid though.
2006-12-17 16:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhpas he really does still like you but is really afraid of being rejected by you. So he gives you a card that is a way out. If you take the peace offering, maybe you'll go somewhere... if you don't, he won't be rejected because he can tell himself it was only for one day. Why don't you ask him direct if he really wants more.... but I'd do that only if you want more too.... otherwise, take the card, throw it away and get on with your life...
2006-12-18 00:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he's messing with you. If he really was mad at you he wouldnt have given you the card in the first place.
maybe thats his way of calling it a truce. Best friends are hard to find, so let the past be past and try the friendship again. Happy holidays and hope u guys become friends again,
2006-12-18 00:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was a mean thing to do. I'd go and confront him directly and just ask wether or not you two will ever be friends again. That way you'll have your answer and can get on with things. It can be hard to ask something like that, but there's nothing like the relief that a solid answer can bring.
2006-12-18 00:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by Carmel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he really a jerk? Or maybe you two have feelings for each other and do not know what to do. YOu guys have been friends and friends do argue just like couples. Sounds like you twoare made for each other.
2006-12-18 00:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may sound strange, but I think it's his way of saying he likes you. If he truly didn't care for you, then his time would've been better spent playing video games or picking his nose--than taking the time to write you a card.
Do something nice for him (like bake him holiday cookies). You may be surpised to see where it may lead.
Response to "ADDITIONAL DETAILS":
Just do something nice, If he doesn't reciprocate and continues to ignore you. Then, when you go home and cry--at least you know you did your part.
2006-12-18 00:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by Stu F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not- you're being a jerk. He gave you a peace offering and you basically said it was worthless. How was he supposed to act after you shot him down? Let it go. Have yourself a merry little Christmas.
2006-12-18 00:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hes male......He still loves you and was messing with you. Be extra nice to him, you may be surprised what happened. Guys do stuff to get attention. Not just attention but special attention. Dont believe that crap. Hes playing hard to get. I was in a situation jsut like that and now we are getting married in JUNE!!!!!!!!
2006-12-18 00:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are pretty young. He does irritating stuff ALL the time. He likes to irritate me, and say "What's wrong", with a big grin on his face. Men like to play fight. Maybe that's what it is. He def. likes you. He's just trying to get your attention. Maybe not the right way to you, but that's all that he can get right now. Like someone else said, be extra sweet to him, and he might relax a bit. Well, good luck! ;)
2006-12-18 00:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he likes you! believe me! he wants to stop fighting from you, but he cannot talk about it!
2006-12-18 00:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by althaea_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋