we have been seeing eachother for a year and a half, I have been waiting for her to leave him, she says she needs to get a better job, to be able to afford a place for her and her kid, I dont see the end in sight, do I continue to wait for love?
2006-12-17 15:51:39 · 39 answers · asked by jaymegibow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope...
2006-12-17 16:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly you should have never gotten into a relationship w/ her in the first place and even though u are in love w/ her, her husband is still the #1 man in her life. and if she really wanted to leave him for you, she would have done it a while ago. If you've been seeing her for a year and a half and she still hasn't left him for you, she's probably not going to. Even if she does, she's not the type you're going to want to marry. She's been cheating on her husband for the past year and half with you, do u think she's gonna stay faithful to you?? the answer is NO. Unless somewhere, she finds some respect for other people and the commitments and promises she makes. Sorry to be so harsh, but you need to hear it from someone. No, don't wait, there is another woman out there who is SINGLE and won't cheat on you or make you the 2nd most important man in her life.
2006-12-17 15:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, all judgment aside, (I only briefly glanced at the other answers) I would say no.
If she has been able to wait this long to be with you my best guess is she will wait forever.
Married lovers are often happy with the status quo (live security on the one hand, and passion on the other). You, my friend, are caught in a trap.
Having a married lover is a sad and hard lesson. My advice is to move on as best you can and to not forget the lesson. Hunt among those that are socially and emotionally available. Married women are neither.
2006-12-17 16:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I will say is.... If she is cheating on her husband, she WILL cheat on you. This women that you are w/ is never happy. That's why she has something going on the side. A very UNTRUSTWORTHY women. You don't need this, even if you are in love. Plus, I feel that you are in the wrong for being w/ her knowing she is married. Bad move. You need to end it. You will find someone that will LOVE you for YOU, but it is not her. You will probably never leave her husband. Good Luck! I really hope you listen to all of our advice. it's the best thing for you right now.
2006-12-17 16:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by truebeing3030 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is scared to leave her man. She was looking for something different and more erotic so she found you. She lovs it so much she just cant resist. But in reality, she has a home with her man and kids. And it what sense would a woman leave her man knowing she has kids from this guy. She is worried about how she is going to live without him.
Pretty obvious to me that if she wanted to go, she would of left a long time ago.
You are a single man! I am sure there are more fishes for you to find than to settle with someone like her. If she can do this to her man, what makes you think she would do it to you in the future? Think about it!
2006-12-17 15:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the waiting for a better job is an excuse. She is never leaving her husband. If she loved u, no matter what she would had divorced him by now. why would she need a better job if supposedly u love her and willing to take care of her? she's playing you and her husband. Let her go theres other fishes in the sea.
2006-12-17 16:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you love her enough, then love is patient.
I agree with the last answer, let the lady leave her Husband.
You might not know what she is going through, it could be hard for her to "make the break", but when you're "there for her" and supportive, she then might be ready to end it with her marriage, BUT, it depends on you and how much you have invested in your relationship and hanging in there! see?
Give the lady some time and space.
Best wishes!!!!!!!!
2006-12-17 16:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were a woman asking this question I would tell you to get some self-respect and stop being a married man's something on the side.
I think you could use the same advice.
2006-12-17 16:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You migh be in love, she is probably inlust. Just like a married man often leads his mistress on, the same can happen in reverse. I think you re being naive to think that anything will come of this affair. Why would you be committed to someone who is legally and emotionally committed to someone else? You deserve better.
2006-12-17 15:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She evidently doesn't love you enough to leave her husband for you - that should tell you something right there.
Don't waste your time waiting for her. If she really loves you, she'll know where to find you when she's divorced.
Don't put your life on hold for her.
2006-12-17 16:02:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have waited a year and half you have waited too long...if she wanted to leave you would have left him already_
2006-12-17 15:57:34 · answer #11 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋