I have an issue, after following advice from my grandmother and mothers (mother and mother in law) who all said its impossible to spoil a baby by holding them all the time before they are six months, I now have an overly clingy two month old. As in I can't put her down at anytime or she starts screaming unless asleep. Is there anyway to cure this? Cause as of right now I am doing the screaming baby hour, she is right by me so I know there is nothing wrong with her! Checked diaper and she's eaten. Burped the whole nine yards right down to her reflux meds and anti gas meds being given. Im at my wits end!
2006-12-17 15:50:34 · 7 answers · asked by dragonbloodus 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I am also prolly one of the least stressed people right now. O.o I just got put on anti depressants as well as just having a day away from my daughter and spending it with my husband.. Have spent the last four hours holding her.
2006-12-17 15:58:41 · update #1
She's not spoiled, spoiled means you give them too much of something that is not necessary and since when is love, affection and the touch of her mother unnecessary?
It is possible that she is just the type of child that needs a lot of touch, that happened with my 1st. He wanted to be held most of the time, even putting him down to sleep got hard. You have to start with small steps, start my setting her on a blanket on the floor with a toy and just be near her to start, then move away a little more each time and for a little longer. (obviously not too far) Remember, too that she needs to see you when possible, I can't remember how old they are when they learn that just because they can't see you doesn't mean you don't exist.
Try to keep your cool, I know it's hard, but you might miss the affection some day. My second didn't need me like my 1st and the lack of needing mommy's touch was weird! I almost missed the hip attachment, almost.
Also, I would check with your doctor, mine never had colic but nonstop crying is a sign of it.
2006-12-17 16:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by 1 Supermom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That isn't spoiling, it is colic. It is pretty normal and also starts around 2 months old. There is nothing wrong with your baby and holding them won't make a difference. We held out daughter constantly and she never had a problem. My son on the other hand became colicy at about 2 months, but it only lasted about 4 months and it wasn't as bad as some cases I have heard of. Your baby crying had nothing to do with being held. Many times it will seem to always start at the same time each day and sometimes only lasts for about an hour? I would try a yahoo search about colic and see if there is anything you can try to help sooth her. Good Luck.
2006-12-17 16:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must not have had much experience with young babies. All two month olds want to be held constantly, and there's not really much you can do except give them what they need.
Babies that young CANNOT be spoiled because they aren't capable of manipulating people. You don't spoil a child by giving them what they need; you spoil them by giving them what they don't need. Imagine what you're baby is dealing with right now. She used to be in an environment where she was always warm and well-fed and comfy, and now EVERYTHING is new to her and the only thing that is familiar to her is you. She needs to be comforted, and you should hold her all the time. She can't do anything for herself (including comforting herself), so you have to do it for her.
The constant screaming sounds like colic. I'd try checking out a copy of the Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Harvey Karp (get the DVD--your local library should have it or you can buy it for about $25). Try swaddling and shushing, it really does work! It helps keep them feeling secure. It really helped with my baby at that age.
2006-12-17 18:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too had also heard that newborns can't be "spoiled" because they haven't developed the instinct to be able to manipulate. They cry simply because they have a need that should be tended to. Maybe you need to take her to a doctor? My little brother was a crier and my Mother couldn't understand because I was such a good baby. Well, it turns out he had several hernias and needed an operation. Maybe you should try a few books to develop some new skills to deal with crying and try to establish what all the different cries mean. Other than that, I can't help either, sorry! Good luck!
2006-12-17 15:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by MrsTee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound depressed and it would be best if you sought some professional help or even ask a friend over for a cup of coffee and a chat. if they a true friend they will do it. your baby is picking up on your stressed vibes and this situation isn't good for any of you as you will end up resenting baby.
Perhaps you could even ask said mother and mother-in-law to take the baby for a couple of hours so you can get some decent sleep or do something enjoyable for yourself.
its not all about the baby at this stage, you need to take into account your feelings and concerns as well.
good luck and i hope you can overcome soon.
2006-12-17 15:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by desert_rose1274 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when babies are that young they just want to be held and showed alot of love and affection you really cannot spoil your child by holding her she just like to be under you until she get the feel of someone else when all of her senses start to kick in and that is around six months.
2006-12-17 15:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by :-) Lovely(-: 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is how a 2 month old is. Sounds like colic too.
2006-12-17 15:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by undercovernudist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋