I also have other fears.. like my boyfriend he is 21 and I'm only 14.. (yes I know big age but don't judge) if he'd claim the baby could they arrest him? Also.. can you feel pregnant?.. and after becoming pregnant can it hurt to have sex hard.. or to have sex at all?
2006-12-17 15:44:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
umm i would like to say to all the people that are leaving u bad answers suck it up my god she told u not to judge her she has a bad situation and ur not even helping .
i think u should get the test . also the age u are at ur periods can be very weird some times ive skipped one before and never had sex . yes ur bf can go to jail for that im sorry . i would put it up for adoption . dont abort ur baby if u are pregnant . and if u do go to my profile look up my questions and one says '' a poem for u '' read it
2006-12-18 07:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This early, you won't be able to "feel" pregnant. Sex probably hurts right now and you "feel" pregnant because you are stressed out about being pregnant. This is normal and happens to most women that don't want to be pregnant.
If you are afraid that you are pregnant, you can do a home pregnancy test. Then, go to your local Planned Parenthood so they can do a more accurate test.
Your bf faces a big risk of jail time if anyone finds out that you are having sex with a 21 yr old. It would be considered statutory rape in a majority of states in the U.S., and he would be labeled a sex offender. Depending on your state, he would serve several years in prison. Also, even if he is not charged on rape, he will be charged on "contributing to the delinquency of a minor," which also carries a hefty sentence. Check your local laws online to find out what the prison sentences are for both of these offenses.
If you are not pregnant, and you decide to continue a sexual relationship, please make sure that you use birth control to be safe. Also, you should let him know about the rape laws and the risk it poses to him, although I'm sure he already knows. regardless, it is important to talk about.
In all, don't be afraid to go to clinics. They can help determine if you are pregnant and inform you of the options. You do not have to tell them that your bf is 21, if you don't want to, so you don't need to stress about him being arrested.
I know this is tough. Everything will be okay. Just be safe. Take Care!!
2006-12-17 19:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a test. Early pregnancy just feels like PMS, so it's impossible to determine whether or not you are pregnant from just 'feeling pregnant'. If you are not pregnant, get on some birth control ASAP! I know lecturing you about the age difference won't help, but as a 22 year old, I can assure you that there is something very strange about your boyfriend. If you are pregnant, you have three options, abortion, adoption and keeping it. Visit Planned Parenthood for more information NOT an Emergancy pregnancy counselling centre. Yes, him having sex with you is illegal and he could end up in jail.
2006-12-17 19:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
To you my dear you are only 14 yrs old and you feel you are already pregnant. Take a deep breathe, and give it a few days and talk to someone you trust a friend, your boyfriend and have them buy you a pregnancy test and see, if you are then please go to the doctor as soon as possible. Eventaully you will have to speak to your parents about this, and yes, not to scare you if you are pregnant your boyfriend can be arressted and put in prision for statutory rape of a minor when he is a legal adult. I am not judging the age difference, but I am concerned becuase you are 14 and he is 21 if he truly loved you he should and you should have been more careful. And yes you can feel pregnant, I did, I was sick, was feet and things were swelling and I knew deep down I knew but I was scared. If you are pregnant it can hurt to have sex it really depends on how your body is built. Pregnancy for an adult woman is difficult enough but for a 14 yr old girl it will be that much harder, honey you have the rest of your life ahead of you and raising a child is not cheap, no sleep, no parties, no prom, no graduation, no college unless you really work hard and I mean work your ass off honey. You will need all the love and support you can get if you are. The most important thing is a child changes everything no offense but you are still a child. so it will be a child raising another child in this world which is hard enough being a teenager. And not to scare you even more, but if you are pregnant there is a chance you will lost all most all of your friends because of it, your family life at home may become a little hellish for a while. It is a lot to take on the responseability of another human life, you have options if you are as well. I do not promot abortion I think it is wrong, but I am all for adoption. Open adoptions are the most wonderful thing in the world, what it is, the adoptive parents have sole custody of your child , but you are able to have visitation with that child so that child knows who you are, you get pictures and letters and all the things you would if you had the child living with you. A closed adoption is the complete opisit you do not chose the parents and you don not get pictures you do not even get to know where the baby is at, and you will have to wait until he/she is 18 and see if they try to find you. If you want to be apart of this child's life, but are afraid and want to go for adoption I would recomment an open adoption that way the child will know who is mother it and where she came from and they will know where they came from, and you can see for yourself how your child is doing. I wish you all the luck and love in the world. This is a serious decison that you will have to make, just be honest with your parents and if you need to e-mail me get it off of here and please do so. I will listen if you want to talk to me about anything. God bless you, and may you come out on top with a beautiful education and your life on tract with a job, and someway to properly care for a baby. Believe me they are not cheap by any means and they need stability in there lives always. Love yourself, and be careful with this boyfriend.
2006-12-17 16:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by shaunda f 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Listen up giirl... First off that guy did not have no respevct 4 u i he knew u were so young. If he's man enough he wouldn't have touvhedu. Second what is r moz doing that she doesnt know who ur with?????? Yes they will arrest him if he claims da baby, but he better claim da kid. That baby has no ault in what he's doing. And i dont even know y ur asking if u can have sex while ur pregnant. Ur only 14 an if u hae that baby ur whle lfe is gonna be different and if u were thinkig of finishing shcool it wont be easy....Take care of rself and if u do something ur not supposed to the at least use a condom.
2006-12-17 16:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by C.I. P 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can be arrested if your parents press charges. As for being pregnant your are only 8 days late it take at lease 14 to 21 days for it to show in your urine. Sometimes if you notice thing you do not usually do or eat something at you don't normally eat or your body feels different. but you really have to wait and see. If you have rough sex you can miscarry but you can have sex. Go and get I test that is the only way you will know. Good Luck!
2006-12-17 16:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by mizz_elite215 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being 14, your period can be really irregular. But, take a pregnancy test to be sure. You should tell your mother or someone and get to a GYN and get on birth control or stop having sex. Of course, you're too young to be having sex to begin with for the very reason you're asking this question. If you're not ready to become a mother, you are not ready to be having sex. As for the bf, yes, he will go to jail if anyone who cares about you finds out. It's statutory rape, even with your consent.
2006-12-17 15:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is possible to feel pregnant this early. Sore breasts, tired all the time and sick. Having sex while pregnant should not be a problem for the baby if you are indeed pregnant. As for your boyfriend if he were to claim the baby there could be charges. Talk to an adult you trust and get some support this must be pretty scary.
2006-12-17 16:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-15 03:54:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all honey, you are WAY WAY too young to have to deal with situations such as this one right now. If this turns out to be a false alarm, my best advise would be to learn from your mistake and stop having sex at such a young age. You are too young to have to deal with this psychologically and your body is too young to have to deal with this physically.
You can't 'feel' pregnant this early. Your period could possibly be late due to stress that you are having because of the possibility of being pregnant. Take a pregnancy test would be my best advice. And as for your boyfriend, If you are pregnant.... He's in trouble.
2006-12-19 05:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋