How can I be more assertive at work?

Question

Sometimes, because I feel that I need to have every detail taken care of, I go to my boss or to other co-workers and ask them for their opinion on what I am doing. I feel that I am projecting an image of lacking self-assurance. I have also been assigned with new tasks which I find challenging and because of the fear of failing, I find myself projecting insecurity and hesitation to managers within the "upper management" echelon. What suggestions would you give me to hide or, at least, project a little more confidence in my ability to carry out my tasks? I know I have the talent and the know-how, I just need to project that a little more.

Answer 1

I was partying with this guy when I was about 18 years old. He noticed that I hung my head a lot of the time, especially when stressed. He asked me, "Did you get picked on a lot in school?". I sheepishly answered "yes...". He said to me, "Don't ever hang your head. Whoever you do this to will take it as a sign of weakness. Always look people straight in the eye, even it's your boss chewing you out for something that you actually did. NEVER hang your head - when you do, you are admitting defeat."
Do you ever hang your head?
If so, stop now.

Answer 2

It seems that you're efficient and proficient, you yourself are projecting the fact you're lacking confidence. Try not to worry so much. Obviously, I don't know your work environment, but sometimes you have to be careful who you ask questions. Although, if you're comfortable with asking someone, great... that's how we learn. You also seem to be very conscientious, that's a great quality, just don't get ahead of yourself. Try taking your task upon yourself
without asking questions, if a problem arises or there is a discrepancy they will let you know.
Give yourself some credit ~ You'll be OK

Answer 3

I think you should not worry about your image. If you really get your work done, your managers will see it.

Along those same lines, every person, no matter how conifdent they seem has the same insecurities. Just because yours come out (or so you think) doesn't mean that you are abnormal. It is the work you do that really matters.