I know people don't hate me because I'm really nice to everybody, but I'm also very quiet and shy and might seem distant. Because of this people seem indifferent to me. Is anyone else like this?
2006-12-17 15:08:43 · 9 answers · asked by leena 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I also have been know to be quiet and shy, especially in new environments or around new people. My best friend, who was a co-worker of mine when we first met, told me that due to my 'quiet and shy' demeaner, she mistook this for me being snobby! Like I was "too good" to talk to anyone. She now knows that is far from the truth.
2006-12-17 15:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by zimmiesgrl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, some people may take your "shyness" as being stuck-up or not wanting to talk with them. What they don't realize is that you are just afraid to talk to them. There are a lot of people that have the same problem. Trust me, you are not the only shy person in America. If you find that somebody is feeling like this because you are shy, try to just give them a nice smile or something. That way you don't have to say anything, but they will know that you aren't being un-friendly either.
2006-12-17 23:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by Joe B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to believe that I was just shy when I was younger but I really grew up a lot especially in realizing that if you are going to at all give another person the room and space they need to come to their own conclusions of you without being led to believe something that comes directly from you... they will usually decide all on their own merit to dislike you if you are at all better than they are in any way.
I realize now that I am older... I wasn't shy at all. I just never really liked people very much.
It took me another few years after that, to realize that I didn't need to justify my feelings by creating a socially acceptable "cliche" in order to be myself, and still be somewhat accepted when I needed it. I just succumb to my own truth and reality.
Everyone is phony, most people treat you crappy no matter who or what you are for THEIR OWN reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you or the truth.
Human beings neither like to look at themselves as the kind of person who uses others at their own convienience or... the kind of person that is easily anipulated or forced into anyone elses molds. Basically, if you want something from someone... you are always going to have to kiss some butt... I really believe that shy is an excuse.
If you are better than they are... so be it! If you need them, fake it and deal with yourself. It is no big deal.
Ignore it. Who cares!
2006-12-17 23:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes these are feminine qualities and it is natural for a woman to be quiet and shy. IF she is loud and boisterous then she is not very feminine and less attractive. It is only because quiet people are not as easy to understand everything about so it makes others feel insecure not knowing what you think about them. Read Bhagavad Gita As it is By Bhaktivedant Prabhupada and understand Universal Truths
2006-12-17 23:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are very quiet and shy, you may appear unapproachable to people, hence they will appear indifferent to you. Maybe good to "come out of your shell" a little more, it should help draw people to you somewhat.
2006-12-17 23:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by PikC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hahaha. Yea there's plenty of people like that in the world. Visionaries, thinkers, doers, healers, idealists, pragmatists. Every group has its analytical objectivists. Just make sure you keep approaching others both in an altruistic yet flashy manner.
2006-12-17 23:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mikey C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep... my younger brother is just like you. I keep telling him not to be shy and mingle with people and enjoy life..... :-)
2006-12-17 23:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by Swathi Rao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but it has its advantages at times.
2006-12-17 23:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I know exactly what you mean.
2006-12-17 23:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋