I live in New zealand. Recently my best friend moved to australia. She's having a lot of problems and she's been quite depressed lately. She recently sent me an email which was very suicidal and almost like a goodbye note and to tell the truth I am really, really worried now. I want to go over and get her but I don't have enough money and she's not allowed to give me her phone number or address because of her parents. What do I do, please help
2006-12-17 14:53:49 · 10 answers · asked by oh_scheiss 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
She's not allowed to use the computer anymore and I don't have her address or her phone number. Her parents took her mobile phone off her.
2006-12-17 15:06:33 · update #1
In my state in the U.S., an emergency like this could be handled through the phone system-where an operator can give a message to someone who has an unlisted phone number.
The police or Sheriffs office also could make a personal appearance to the address.
It sounds crass but if you dont hear from her...what would you know either way. Maybe its her way of just saying good-bye to YOU. Sorry, but...
You can try to contact the internet company she uses-they would have her info. If she uses Yahoo, Yahoo has her info.
Otherwise there really is nothing you can do. Worrying wont help you.
2006-12-17 15:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by baghmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to her about this first? It'd be a good place to start. If she's telling you about this she might want a response that lets her know that she's loved by you and that your friendship is important.
The police might be an option, too, but also consider what they might do. Your friend might not appreciate you telling the police. Maybe she would, maybe she wouldn't. I don't know. Often, it's a cry for help, but it might matter where the help comes from.
Her parents won't allow her to divulge her address or phone number? That seems odd to me. How are her relationships with her parents? If the relationships are good, contacting them might be a good idea. (But how would you?) Sometimes, though, people don't react well to knowing a loved one is in such pain that involves suicidal thoughts because it's something they fear or feel helpless about.
I strongly suggest you contact her quickly. Perhaps remind her of options other than suicide. There are counselors and such in Australia, right? I live in the US and we have an elaborate mental health system, but I know nothing of such services in other countries.
If in doubt use the police or her parents. Just remember that although you are well intentioned, which is definitely good of course, that your friend may not appreciate you telling a third party. She may be asking for help, but we don't know what kind of help she wants.
Later on, when she recovers, she'll thank you.
2006-12-17 23:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell and show yer parents and hopefully they'll call her parents. Unfortunately, you don't have much time here plus this is an emergency, so you can't afford to be tactful. If that doesn't work, contact the cops over where she lives and find someway to give them the message.
Sorry about yer friend, but if you wanna do something and be sure she doesn't do anything crazy, you have to play it straight up.
2006-12-17 23:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mikey C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must contact your local police, they will definately contact the Australian Police to sought out the problem..
I think this is the only way.. becuase if you know when she left new zealand then she will be easily traced with the help of passport and visa details...
good luck
2006-12-17 23:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Nishu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in contact as much as possible. Don't sound overbearing because you may inadvertently provoke her. Talk with her about her problems, her issues. The importance lies in how well you empathize with her. Listen to her speak, and don't criticize by saying something like, "Suicide is for cowards". or "Your problems aren't THAT bad..." Keeping reminding her that she has your support and love.
"Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem."
2006-12-17 23:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anitec 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious about this, call the local police in the town she lives in and explain to them that you are concerned about her and they should be able to find her and check thing out. Tell the police to pleae inform you as to what they find. Good Luck.
2006-12-17 23:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by ruth4526 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Email her back, but make sure that her parents know that she 's thinking about suicide. She really needs help. It's really important that she knows that she's loved and that she has a purpose. She only has one life, and it's her duty that she doesn't waste it.
2006-12-17 23:01:45 · answer #7 · answered by laughoutloud22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a way to contact the parents and tell them, this is very serious
2006-12-17 23:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, if she really was going to do anything she would have done it by now. Or you could give her the attention that she is obviously getting now. whatever
2006-12-17 23:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by Allie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Counsel her. Tell her that you're worried for her and spill your emotions.
2006-12-17 23:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by huy_zer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋