I am a really caring guy and there is this girl I like, We are both sophmores and have known each other a long time and we both know we like each other. She is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug, and I respect her so I don't. even though I am a more touchy kind of guy. and I mean with everybody I always love hugs any time from most anyone.SO WHAT SHOULD i DO TO GROW CLOSTER IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saving that for marraige.
2006-12-17 14:49:25 · 6 answers · asked by 1-4-all 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
first and foremost, i think you should ask her what are her limitations and expectations in your relationship. then at the same time lay also your cards (tell her honestly about this one). after both of you laid yor cards then come to an agreement as to how far would the two of you go. by here you are going to establish expectations and at the same time respect (if ond only if you stayed with the limits held) once respect is established wait for her to cope up with you. just give her time and show her that you are a man of honour (a lot of ladies, specially to conservative types like men with honour)
also it might help a lot if you ask her why is she "anti-touch" (by the way, ask her nicely and not aggresively)... i think youll do just fine with this
2006-12-17 14:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that with time, she'll be okay with hugging and holding hands. In the meantime try to be closer to her emotionally--- spend lots of time talking to her, share ideas, etc... You'd be surprised how a lot of girls find emotional intimacy more weighty than physical intimacy. Good Luck!
2006-12-17 22:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by sunflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is really awesome that you can respect her like that. especially when it comes to touch. she is very lucky that you care about her.
maybe she has had a bad experience? maybe shed even like to talk about it. but dont prod or pressure. i think that this will just flat out take time. its soemthing she just has to work on and all you can really do is be there for her and continue to be respectful. that is going to build SO much trust with her. you are an awesoemeguy. keep doin what you're doin.
2006-12-17 22:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a pretty nice guy and that you really care about this girls well being. And if you really love her you need to recognize that she is your girl and once you decide this is the girl for you. You need to grab her *** and don't be ashamed to do it. And as soon as you do this she is either going to slap you or start giggling. But both are a good thing as long as you don't get scared and except all consequences of your actions she is as good as yours.
I had to do the same thing for my girl and I'll tell you it was worth it. It was scary but well worth it. because as soon as you do this you have unlocked a door for both of you. because for one she knows that you have given her the right to do what ever she wants to you. And now you have the rights to do what you want with her.
As soon as I did it for my girl she started biting me. Slapping me, Cussing me out. And she became more confident. But I also became her sex slave. So dude just let her know that its allright for us to touch im not going to hurt you.
And be a man about it. Ok so she slaps you big deal all she is doing is testing to see if you are man enough to handle what she is about to put on you next.
But main thing is respect her body. She isn't going to give it to just anyone to feel on. So you better not cheat on her and NO means NO That is her body not yours. Plus there is some stuff about her body that she might be scared to let you know. So don't act immature when you find out something new about the female body.
2006-12-17 23:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by rocko 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well....ask her for a hug or ask her to hold hands so you can still be respectful because you don't know if she doesn't like to hold hands or hug. Try and see
2006-12-17 22:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make her a romantic dinner with songs and dont ever mention sex in front of ur girlfren.....just be nice and cosy..or perhaps make a new hairdone...
2006-12-17 22:53:35 · answer #6 · answered by mysterious girl this year!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋