I recently had sex for the first time with my boyfriend. After about 2 weeks, I noticed that I was starting to feel some symptoms of pregnancy, like breast tenderness and lower back pain. No morning sickness, though. After I told my boyfriend, we both got worried, and even though I ended up getting my period, he's been turned off to the idea of doing anything sexual ever since. Even though I'm fine with this and agree that we should be more cautious from now on, I'm curious as to why he never felt this way about his ex-girlfriend, whom he often had unprotected sex with. It's like he never considered the consequences with her, a girl he only dated for the heck of it, but is super freaked out about it with me, the woman he says he wants to marry someday. Should I be wary of a hidden meaning behind this? Can anyone shed some light on why a guy might feel this way?
2006-12-17 14:45:35 · 8 answers · asked by fateful_gravitation 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You answered the question yourself. His ex-girlfriend was a girl he only dated for the heck of it, so the consequences didn't really hit home at the time. Now he's being careful because you're the woman he wants to marry someday, and he's not ready for you to get pregnant...yet.
2006-12-17 14:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe pregnancy or the risk of it was what ruined the previous relationship.
be thankfull he is wary of getting you pregnant. the best thing for you both to do is see a doctor/nurse etc and arrange birth control. use both condoms, spermicide and the oral pill.
the most important thing is to talk to your partner about his worries. if you use contraception properly you wont have any problems.
it could just be he is not sure how this relationship is going and dosent want to risk you becoming pregnant with a child you both may not be ready for.
2006-12-17 14:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry if I were you. He probably just grew up and decided to be more responsible. Which is a good thing.
And you may not know for sure whether his ex-girlfriend was using protection (and he didn't know it).
Unless you have explicitly agreed to have children, you should be happy that he is sharing the responsibility with you. A lot of guys don't, unfortunately...
2006-12-17 14:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ivan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well thats hard to say really i mean how long have you guys been dating and does he love you???? if its your 1st time than your probably still young... maybe he just doesn't want to ruin your life bye getting you pregnant so young... or bye thinking you were pregnant maybe he feels as if your wanting to and thinks your going to get pregnant on purpose.. are you on birth controll???? that's a big factor too. maybe his ex was on birthcontroll or she expressed she didn't want kids and didn't want to get pregnant.... Possible as crappy as this sounds maybe your guy is lying about the dating for the heck of it... there might have been more feelings that he isn't letting you know about. many many guys tell girl exactly what they wanted to hear.... and sadly we often believe them =( hope everything works well for you guys
2006-12-17 15:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say he dated the other girl "for the heck of it"...that's exaclty it...He really cares about you if he is more afraid of getting you pregnant. He didn't care about the other girl, so it didn't bother him as much as it does with you...the one he really cares about. Be understanding with him and respect him for that...you have a GREAT guy!
2006-12-17 15:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Danelle L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he knew it wasnt going anywhere with her and he could blame the kid on someone else...and maybe hes just thinking about yalls future and not wanting a kid now....give it time and ask him why goodluck to you!
2006-12-17 14:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants to take things slow with you. maybe he never got the pregnancy scare with the other one, and when it happened with you, he got a reality check.
2006-12-17 14:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
CHILD SUPPORT
2006-12-17 14:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋