This guy asked me to a dance. I'm 17, he's 16, we're in the same grade and school. But, I'm not sure if he wants to get romantically involved too, as in bf and gf. We talk some, and e-mail a lot. And, I e-d him that he could back out if he wanted and he said that's not an option. Then, I asked him why me and not some other pretty girl who goes to our school...I'm average looking, and he came up with a paragraph of reasons. Do u think he wants more that just to go to a dance? Should I ask him if he wants more, or just wait and see? Am I exaggerating a simple situation?
I want to be with him.
And not in a physical way. Teenagers doing that=eew!
2006-12-17 14:38:47 · 7 answers · asked by abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz123456 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Dancing
It may be more than just a dance. Time will show. No way to know now. It is up to the two of you.
I think you are very smart girl for asking him questions first before getting too involved. I know it is not popular to ask questions, people are supposed to be "romantic". BS, if you ask me. It's great that he had like a paragraph why did he pick you. I think you are double-smart for not thinking physical yet. Teenagers or not, it is always smart to figure out other stuff first. Physical should wait till the time you firgured out other stuff. And yeah, physical only when you decide that you're old enough.
2006-12-17 19:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Everybody's Favorite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should set your criteria for more than friends down in writing for yourself and do what your mind tells you to do...not your heart, but your mind.
You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you.
Be honest with him. If you don't want it to be more than a dance then tell him your chastity is not negotiable even after the 3rd date. If you want more than the dance, make sure he's got his condom and spermicide and you have safe sex without the possible complication of a child.
Never just wait and see, you may end up with a baby that neither one of you are ready to raise. Don't let your hormones cloud your judgement. If you have not thought it through or talked it over with him the hormones can get the best of you.
2006-12-17 23:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by llaidee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old women to young women, if he wrote a paragraph of reasons why he wanted to take you specifically out, he's a good guy. Remember, men are a whole lot more afraid of courtship then women are. How I got over my insecurities and self-esteem doubts about my looks and worthiness of a date is I block out myself and focus completely in the beginning when it's nervous-time on the man and how shaky his own feelings and self-esteem must be. By caring about men and learning to understand them like that, I've come to dearly cherish them as a sub-species. Just joking. You're sixteen, angelcakes. Go out with this very nice young man and enjoy him. Something tells me that he isn't the shallow type who only wants sex. The biggest problem in the world right now, just in my ancient opinion, is men are all shook up and afraid. Women have many charms, beside sex, that can soothe the hearts of men and inspire them to better ways than war and such confusions as hate.
2006-12-17 22:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is open to talking about it. Ask him and if he doesn't want to be in a bf/gf relationship...he's still a great friend right? Give it a shot...you can still have a relationship with him either way, but you may find out that he likes you as much as you like him. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-17 22:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by Danelle L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u enjoy the dance then u should totally go for it and ask him out... if u really like him ask him..if u said he coulda picked any other pretty girl, but he chose u that must mean he likes u...Go For IT...good luck
2006-12-17 22:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you first have to find out what you really want to do with this guy.
do you want to be part of his life?
You don't want to be physical involved with him just because you are a teen? hummm
I think it's more than just a dance.
2006-12-17 22:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by shantabelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just ask him boldly if he wants to be just friends or more,then you'll know what exactly to expect.Communication is important!!!!
2006-12-17 22:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ali.D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋