It's an emotional work affair. To those that don't know, that means we talk about everything under the sun, our feelings and we go out, but no sex. We've been in situations where it was possible but have walked away and interestingly enough if one of us feels the possibility of temptation, we avoid being alone. In Oct, he told me he planned on leaving his wife. I have never asked him but made it clear there wouldn't be an "us" for too long if he stayed. I can't say he's using me because we are not intimate. Here goes the question my friend and I don't agree on: I say, if he's in love with me, NOTHING but NOTHING will stop him from being with me. Friend disagrees, she feels he may love me but is comfortable with the wife, "cheaper to keep her" and that he will stay for his daughter even if he loved me. We both have tried breaking it before. Eventually I would have to end it before we get intimate. I'm so confused. I feel we love each other but won't say it for obvious reasons.
2006-12-17 14:38:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
emotional affairs are even worse than a sexual one, as emotional affairs are how it all begins,if he loves u and wants to give up his home and half of his as setts, than he will probably leave her, if not he won't do it. because u are their for him emotionally he feels he no longer needs the wife, so it is hurting his marriage.what do u hope to gain from this, what is your goal? seems to me your goal is u and him eventually being together, but keep in mind, he may do the same thing to u as he is doing to his wife now. emotional affairs are as bad as sexual ones, they still cheat the wife out of something.
2006-12-18 02:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though he may not have the relationship with his wife that he has with you...she is still his wife and the mother of his child. That is a commitment that one can easily walk away from...think about it would you really want him if he would? He is married and they may be having issues but he has to make the break and it has to be for the right reasons and not to be with you!
How do u know you love him...would you want someone to love your husbond as u are loving someone else's husbond? would you want him talking to another as he is talking to you? Marriage is a commitment between two people who have vowed to love each through all things! I think you need to rethink your motives and remember "What goes around coems around."
2006-12-17 14:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Dre 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he leave his wife? If not, why is this even a question, if you made it clear that there wouldn't be an "us" if he stayed?
You're right that he doesn't love you as much as he loves his wife (or at least the situation that he's in). You're not worth the effort it takes to leave his wife.
I'm also confused - in one of your previous questions you say you're divorced, in the other you say you're "getting a divorce". Are *you* free to play the field?
2006-12-17 15:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the answer is simple.
He's a cheating b*stard and you're a home-wrecking whore.
You two sociopathic lying betraying insincere a$sholes deserve each other.
Don't believe me? Well, what if YOU were married and had a daughter with this guy and YOU found out without him telling you that YOUR husband went out with another woman, was very intimate with her "emotionally" (I am willing to bet everything I have you two have been physical - maybe not intercourse but physical), talked about all his feelings with this woman, had been in situations with her where they were tempted to have sex, had told her he planned on leaving YOU, she was testing him to see if he loved her by leaving YOU, had tried breaking it off with her but could not, and felt he loved her and she loved him, what would you call those two people?
Exactly. A cheating b*stard and a home-wrecking whore; two sociopathic lying betraying insincere a$sholes who deserve each other.
2006-12-17 14:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would want my husband to stay with me & our daughter. I would be so hurt if he had an emotional affair. Just because it isn't physical, doesn't make it right. Please give him distance. He may not be thinking clearly if he has feelings for you. He needs to focus on his family.
2006-12-17 14:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by IMHO 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF HE'S GOING TO CHEAT ON HIS WIFE THEN HE IS GOING TO CHEAT ON YOU. HE MAY LIKE YOU AND HE MAY SAY HE LOVES YOU, BUT WHAT DO YOU THINK HE TELLS HIS WIFE EVERY MORNING BEFORE HE GOES TO WORK: "i LOVE YOU, HONEY" AND THEN HE GOES TO WORK AND MESSES AROUND WITH YOU. SOUNDS LIKE A KEEPER, DO HIS WIFE A FAVOR AND TAKE HIM FROM HER.
2006-12-17 14:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by Dad of Zach, Payton, & Chance 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your a s,lu,t for even getting that close to a married man and guess what you will alway be the other women you homewrecker
2006-12-17 14:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by ashley l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋