my husband recently planted some flowers in the front of our yard.He asked if I wouldn't mine watering them I told him it wouldn't be a problem.Well it rained not to long ago since he planted them and i've been busy so I haven't had a chance to water them.To make a long story short he got very upset about it and pretty much demanded that I water the flowers.He said"you better get out there and water them"And of course that b.s. is not going to fly with me.I'm a SAHM/housewife of 5 kids i'm extremely busy with them and keeping the inside of the house clean.I don't think it's fair of him to ask me to deal with the outside too.Not to mention he knows I have really bad allergies.But he doesn't seem to care.So my question is should I be mad with him for demanding that I water the flowers?
2006-12-17 14:37:03 · 12 answers · asked by brooklyncrazysexycool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he planted them if he wants them he should take care of them so you have every rite to be mad
2006-12-17 14:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by ashley l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should have said No!. Not in a rude way but No you can't do it because you are busy with the kids. Then if you have the time, when you are outside in the yard, check on his garden. You should never commit to something especially if you are a busy person. Now you've obligated yourself which is now stressful. Talk with your spouse and explain yourself clearly. If he still doesn't understand how you feel, ignore him and nurse the garden in your spare time.
2006-12-17 14:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea you should be upset for demanding you to water the flowers like that, but if you say you are going to do something then u should follow through with it... calmly tell him u are sorry for not getting to the flowers but also let him know that it is not acceptable to demand you to do anything... He needs to apologize for his rudeness and you need to apologize for you forgetfullness... Dont let little things like that upset u too much..those are the little things in marriage that can lead to bigger problems and cause a breakup... Life is too short to be upset with eachother all the time... tell him ur sorry, he'll tell u he's sorry, cook him a nice dinner and have makeup sex...solves every problem in marriage..at least until the next fight...lol..good luck girl..
2006-12-17 14:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by happy2BAlive!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's kind of a sticky situation. I agree that you have enough to do indoors and shouldn't have to deal with the outdoors. However, he did ask if you would water them before he planted them and you agreed. Still, he should not demand things of you. In short, you both sound like you need to learn to communicate better with each other.
2006-12-17 14:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by lilmisstickletoo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be mad, but you also must acknowledge that you agreed to water them. Things happen you run 5 lives plus your own, flowers compared to that are trivial. He may be more upset that you told him you would do something and then you did not do it, and not so much about the flowers themselves.
2006-12-17 14:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by cloverpondering 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
definite, until eventually it replaced into his superb chum who's female. i'd be mad because he's allowing some stranger to enter his personal area at the same time as dancing in a sexual way. Its one element if its a chum and its a shaggy dog tale yet when its some random female i'd basically be damage.
2016-11-30 21:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by lemmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flowers?????????????You gotta be kidding,lady. IT is no big deal to water flowers. Mad at him for flowers????? You need some outside interests --- you've been inside too long, hon
2006-12-17 15:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that's your only problem, i say yeah, be mad.
he took on the responsibility to plant them, he should follow through with the care of them,however even if you did agree to water them, things come up, and with 5 kids, i'm sure you got really busy.
tell him he is selfish. and to go do it himself.
the next time he has any bright ideas tell him to run them by you first!!
2006-12-17 14:41:15 · answer #8 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly he sounds like a prick. 5 kids? And he's mad that you didn't water some flowers? That's ridiculous. I'd be so pissed.
2006-12-17 14:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes. One he should of respected you enough not to talk to you that way. Two, he should love you enough to see that you have your hands full already and three, he didnt apoligize.
stand tall and proud
2006-12-17 14:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋