what are the consequences of swallowing your pain?

Question

you just hurt in silence,everyone only sees the happy side of you.

Answer 1

if the pain is unbearable you will explode sooner or later if not you may just become irritable or antisocial

Answer 2

You hit it on the head, everyone only sees the happy side of you. People do not like seeing others in pain. Pain does not make friends..
People outside your family do not believe you are in pain (they do not see when one is screaming in pain!)..
Not including why you are having pain, you are more apt not to go to the doctors...and it gets worse.
In the real world I am quite silent about my chronic pain...teachers do not understand why I am not at the school all the time. Dentists do not understand why you ( I am more comfortable saying you instead of I, did you notice this?) have tears running down your face. Others in general do not understand why you can cry at any times of the day.
People also do not understand why you would not rather just drive somewhere then get a ride (pain medications throws a persons driving ability off and it is best not to drive on these). People are cruel and when they do not know why you are the way you are they just keep getting nastier. People in general do not understand why you can not sit still for more then a couple minutes. They do not understand this is when the hurt here or there or both places get to the point one wants to scream!

It is best to tell if that is you are the kind to air this kind of thing in public. The computer is great for one to let it all out!
Good luck and do what you feel comfy with. Oh and what I told a schizophrenic patient the other day, live one day at a time...No I am not a doctor but I find people talk to me quite often and openly about there problems...

Answer 3

If something really traumatic happens and you try and suck it up you might feel as is you've gone through the process of getting over it, feeling that you've dealt with it.Then you start forgetting things .When you start to think about anything related to the event it fades quickly and your mind wanders to something else.You might have strange feelings of euphoria when said events are mentioned or thought of.You might act out in strange ways that violate your values.Some kind of riddle or question may keep you going around and around in circles seemingly for no good reason it may also be something that violates your values.Something that was never a big deal before but now takes on a real sense of urgency.You may experience visual distortions when seeing persons places connected to event.Failure to recognize people you know.You may notice that you are missing large pieces of your life. This can go on for years.You might think you're losing it.The riddle may become extremely bothersome till you can't stand it anymore and finally you demand an answer Now!Then you might wake up in a lot of emotional pain that is worsened by being out of context.No matter how much time has passed it will feel as though it just happened or is happening now.This is what can happen if you block something out.There is a great misconception that repressed memory does not exist .I can assure you that it does and it happens exactly the way Freud says it does.The first thing I heard was her voice.The next was her phone number scrolling past my eyes in big bright numerals.A number I had dialed hundreds of times but had forgotten.Then I heard her say what I had never wanted to hear .Then the feeling of a huge sword being plunged into my heart; the pain was unbearable .Had it been any worse I think I would have died.Bit by bit in the folowing months, years a small piece of memory comes back from that period.I wound up losing large pieces of almost ten years.This is not something I care to relive and hope it does not happen to you.Swallowing the pain solves nothing.

Answer 4

Swallowing your pain will only make it hurt more.If possible talk to someone you trust.Get it off your heart before it causes you physical pain,and emotional grief.Having everyone see you as always happy can't be easy on you,you must talk to someone about your feelings on a personal note.However make sure it's someone you can trust.Some body who might even make the hurt go away.

Answer 5

When you do that, you become hostage of your pain. You will stay stuck in those feelings, which will not disappear because you are not dealing with them.
Try to talk to people around you about how you are feeling. I´m sure you´ll find out that people can relate to your pain and that you are not alone in this.
If you feel like you can´t do that, then you might try a therapist or a depression hotline, which you can find in the yellow pages. Good luck.

Answer 6

More pain and sickness. You can choose who you trust to open up to, you don't have to show all your pain to everyone, but if you never deal with the pain it will fester. You need a safe place to open up and let things out. Grieving and some sadness are part of life and they are valid feelings. You need to determine what causes your sadness and make choices to put yourself in good places, relating to good people who help you feel good about your life and circumstances.The happy side of you can be for your public, because some people arent worth sharing with, have no discretion with your deepest feelings..

Answer 7

I learned that swallowing your pain, only makes you sicker. I learned that if I acknowledged my pain, I could then move forward and take care of myself. Pain is real. Some people don't understand about pain, because at times we may look normal, but inside we are in pain. Acknowledge your pain, so you can move forward.

Answer 8

“A man, who is master of himself, can end a sorrow as easily as he can invent a pleasure. I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” - Oscar Wilde

EMOTIONS are very powerful; and luckily, we have been "gifted" with a nice array of them (half way, being sarcastic).

Along with "love," I think "pain" is one of the strongest emotions we have... we go through.

To "swallow" something that "heavy," that "strong," will only make (you) vulnerable. When you don't have an outlet, or a way to express your pain, it will most definitely eat away at you inside, bringing you further down from when you started.

I think, too often, we let our emtions get the best of us. We should really use them to our advantage, and not try to "cover them up." Just look at some of the greatest artists, musicians and writers... they work with their emotions... and more often times then non, they have found a way to release that "pain," instead of bottling it up.

It's not healthy.
It's not healthy to keep things bottled up inside.
"Pain" is healthy; as well as all those other emtions: love, hate, courage, fear, joy, sadness, pleasure and disgust. It is ONE of the traits that make us human.

Jim Morrison said it best:

“People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all.
People talk about how great love is, but that's bullshit. Love hurts.
Feelings are disturbing.
People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous.
How can they deal with love if they're afraid to feel?
PAIN is meant to wake us up.
People try to hide their pain. But they're wrong.
Pain is something to carry, like a radio.
You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It's all in how you carry it. That's what matters.
Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you.
Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you're letting society destroy your reality.
You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.” - Jim Morrison

(...well, maybe not that extreme, but he has a great point)

.pEace.

Answer 9

the pain will just show itself when u least expect it.

there is this girl at my job who was diagnosed with an awful disease last year and she kept it a secret and told no one about it. she didn't realize it but her work suffered. it seemed like she was slacking off and just didn't care about her job. we are sopposed to give 1 month notice when we need a day off, she would go see our manager the day before she needed a day off.all the rest of us thought she was getting preferential treatment when she wasn't.

u should try to work out your pain not hide it.

Answer 10

In essence, you are swallowing poison. Just because you can't see it, doesn't mean it's not hurting you. Besides, what's so bad about going home and screaming at the top of your lungs and beating the living hell out of your pillow. Better to torture your pillow than yourself as you can always buy another pillow.

Answer 11

If it is emotional pain, it will bubble to the surface sooner or later and probably in a negative way. If it's physical, you may risk your life, or sight, or ability to walk or talk! Don't stifle your pain, Rant! Cry! Scream!!! AGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH!!